Episode 22: 84 Invites: Jim & Ben’s Wedding Reunion Special

Right before they popped off to the land of tea & crumpets, Jim and Ben stopped by for one last in-person recording session to talk about their wedding. Apologies in advance to the Brits for our terrible English accents.

Moral to the Story: Marriage has to be based on fake news otherwise no one would do it.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Ben explains the arduous emigration process.
  • Tamu & Mallory cried at the courthouse wedding video.
  • San Diego Shout Outs: To the wedding venue, Bahia Resort Hotel and the runner-up, Top of the Bay.
  • Deep Sadness Moment: Mallory learns Orlando Bloom is engaged to Katy Perry.
  • WTF Moment: Ben learns Orlando Bloom is English!
  • Ben loves Katy Perry so much she is the only artist he listens to offline.
  • Mallory’s elvish journals.
  • Ben is taking his Tolkien collection to England.
  • Ben feels that Elijah Wood should be English and/or gay.
  • Question of the Day: Do the English speak proper English?
  • Speaking of Weddings: Joelle of Mouse and Weens had close to 200 people at her wedding.
  • Ben’s dream wedding came to fruition, the feeling was not mutual for Jim.
  • Friends/guests forget a wedding is not about them.
  • Jim & Ben spent 10 hours putting together their seating chart to avoid “landmines”.
  • For Jim, the bigness of the wedding (84 guests) was overwhelming .
  • Jim’s 80-line excel spreadsheet.
  • Jim, the Consummate Wedding Planner: Jim broke all of the wedding activities into 15 minute increments.
  • Toast strategies for when you have four (4) of them.
  • Would they do a big wedding again? No, however, for each of them watching one another walk down the aisle with their respective families made it worth it.
  • Lessons Learned: Jim will now be a horrible wedding guest.
  • All about the music: Jim’s OCD came out creating the reception playlist and Tamu felt a way about being excluded from the music selection.
  • Shifting Perspectives: Ben’s parents’ progression from him burning in hell to full acceptance of his being gay.
  • You get 1 min: Jim’s explanation for the champagne toast.
  • A moment of Zen: Jim’s mani/pedi relaxation moment.
  • Tamu won’t be allowed into Britain with her bad cockney accent.

Jim & Ben’s Guide to Wedding Survival:

  1. Clearly communicate your needs and wants.
  2. Decide the size of wedding up front and do not deviate.
  3. Agree together on how scripted you want things to be.
  4. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
  5. Don’t freak out about your friends being idiots, they are just excited.
  6. Don’t settle on venues. Take time and look around.

Podcast Shout Outs from Across the Pond:

  • Check out The Thirst Podcast for pop culture, news, reviews, and discussion.
  • Listen to Her Moment in History where hosts Grace and Michelle give famous, infamous and not-so-well know women a time to shine.

 

Flutter: Flying Solo at a Wedding

It is Wedding Season!!!

Tamu and Mallory talk about going to and being in weddings as a single person.

Moral to the Story: Go. Do it. You will be fine. Also, be nice to the other solo fliers at the wedding.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Tamu goes to Jim & Ben’s wedding.
  • Mallory got a sword as best man.
  • Mallory’s new side hustle: Geek Chic Wedding Planner
  • Mallory and the groomsman, a first dance tale.
  • Ambiverts unite!
  • The More You Know: Want to feel fabulous? Go to a gay wedding.
  • New Podcast Idea: The Sad Expert – could work for sadness and seasonal affective disorder.

Episode 12: Bad@Love @ The Movies “Crazy Rich Asians”

Well, at the time it was timely, but now, not so much. Tamu & Mallory headed to the theaters to see Crazy Rich Asians. 

Moral to the Story: It will be out on DVD/streaming pretty soon. Buy it, rent it, stream it often so we can get more movies of color out into the world – or at least in America.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • This movie is Black Panther for Asians.
  • These are the most rich people EVER.
  • How do you not tell someone you are dating what they are getting into when it comes to your family?
  • Once you find out, why not Google for more information?
  • Tamu would have broken up with hottie.
  • Tamu questions the NY credibility of Constance Wu’s character. Hit them in the face with the damn fish!
  • Being other impacts all facets of life.
  • Everyone hates Americans.
  • Mallory has a hard time with the notion of being “crazy rich”.
  • Even if you tick off all the boxes, being American is hobbling.
  • If Bad@Love made this movie: Possible titles; Tragic Sad Americans or Stupid Poor Americans.
  • Henry Golding’s character was problematic.
  • Breaking Stereotypes: Hunky Tall Asians
  • The most over-the-top wedding EVER.
  • What is sacrifice?
  • Bad@Love tries to escape America by Dating Abroad: Should they consider adding super rich Asians to the list?
  • Tamu didn’t know her babysitter’s sons were Neo-Nazis (she was a kid!)

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