Episode 25: My Life is the MMMBop Song!

This week we dig into the results of our emotional intelligence tests!

Moral to the Story: Not everyone thinks like you.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Get To Know Us: we talk about childhood songs. Tamu blows Mallory away with the disco version of “C is for Cookie” off of Sesame Street Disco Fever. Mallory remembers the racist version of “This Land is Your Land” from junior high school.
  • We can’t help but feel we broke our lovely EQ coach, Hannah.
  • #WePodcastLikeThis with Dave Matthews’ Dreaming Tree Wine with the hard to read poem.
  • Mallory’s amazingly high EQ scores would be even higher were it not for her life challenges last year, but things are on the up!
  • Tamu’s optimism score is 45, because this world is a piece of shit.
  • Mallory realizes she has mental health privilege.
  • Getting the results was nerve wrecking.
  • Mallory’s version of flexibility is not being a doormat.
  • Tamu is optimistic for everyone except herself.
  • Question of the Day: How do you become optimistic in a shitty world?
  • You cannot have a perspective in reality & be optimistic, you are lying to yourself.
  • Scores reflected the environments that Mallory & Tamu grew up in.
  • Mallory talks about her mom’s insane optimism that leeched into her psyche which is positive — even if she doesn’t see it that way.
  • Mallory saved a jumper’s life.
  • MMMBop has lyrics!
  • Note to Dave Matthews: We don’t understand you!
  • Mallory’s family issues have gotten better but, when it comes to dating relationships, she has to work on trust.

 

Flutter: Always be Prepared to Cheat

This week we talk about cheating and what is means to each of us, respectively.

Moral to the Story: It is imperative to have open communication in a relationship.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Is the old adage, “Once a cheater, always a cheater” true?
  • Tamu questions her experience of cheating on White 1 (still getting the damn names confused!)
  • A chair falls in the middle of the episode!

Flutter: Men on Tinder: Dating Conundrum

Continuing on the Tinder theme from last week’s episode, we break down Lane Moore’s Guardian article, “What I’ve learned about men from from countless hours of Tinder”.

Moral to the Story: Think of dating as the cute, yet uncomfortable shoes you have to wear to find love.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Dudes will never reach out to you quickly…EVER.
  • Different strokes for different folks.
  • Mallory admits to hating dudes right now.

Episode 14: Nappily Ever After: A Little Bit Disappointing…A Lot

Tamu and Mallory read Trisha R. Thomas’s Nappily Ever After and compare it to the Netflix  adaptation. Let’s just say there were high expectations which were sadly not met. However, both the book and movie are pioneers for moving natural hair into the mainstream; hopefully the next movies and books about natural hair will be even better.

Moral to the Story: We are beautiful regardless of what comes out of our heads.

Other Fun Topics Discussed: 

  • The protagonist is really a selfish human.
  • She cut her hair off and had no new growth as a person.
  • Mallory liked the first chapter of the book.
  • Communication is important in relationships.
  • Don’t get blasted and share feelings because you may end up engaged.
  • Book break up vs. Insecure breakup between Issa & Lawrence.
  • Mallory wondered if the movie was for white people to get an idea of black women & their hair.
  • The movie’s theme is “if a black man approves”
  • Most Ridiculous Movie Quote: “Men want realness”
  • Anything with a dick can still be a dick.
  • Women & beauty standards.
  • Sex in the shower can be a thing on wash day.
  • Miraculously Sanaa’s character can braid, but was unable to do her own hair.
  • Don’t assume because someone is wearing a scarf that they have cancer.
  • Mallory found the sexism in the movie!
  • Tamu talks about the moment when she cut her hair off.
  • Mallory finds the misogyny in the final pool scene between the father and mother!
  • Bad@Love Remakes this Movie: Would have been better to see someone with more power in their hands.
  • Myth Busted: Going natural is not cheap, nor is it quick.
  • The World According to Mallory: Online dating = Love resumes so use grammar and spell check.
  • Tamu compares the movie to bad tequila.

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Flutter: Irresistible Mistakes…!

This week, Tamu and Mallory make unsurprising romantic choices when they play Irresistible Mistakes an online dating simulation game from Voltage, Inc. An otome game, this story-based game is targeted towards women.

Moral to the Story: Read a book, watch a movie, or play The Sims 4 instead.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

The main character wakes up from a night of dirty, sexy times and DOES NOT SHOWER!

The use of …! for everything the main character is thinking.

Not shockingly Tamu ended up with someone who has closed himself off to love.

Unsurprisingly Mallory ended up with someone whose heart is unavailable.

Mallory Recommends: There is a pigeon simulation game called Hatoful Boyfriend that is her FAVORITE.  She says to keep playing, it isn’t how you think.

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Flutter: Bad@Love’s 1st Annual “Scary” Spooktacular Moments in Dating

Tuck in because these are truly scary and uncomfortable moments shared by fantastically brave individuals.

Moral to the Story: Dating shouldn’t be scary for any of us. Once again, let’s be respectful of our choice to say, “No” and move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea!

Special Thanks To These Amazing Podcasts for Sharing Their Stories:

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Flutter: We Met on Plenty of Fish…Farmer’s Only…OK, Grinder

The fun continues with our friends Jim & Ben. We ask them how they met and their opinions on love and relationships.

Moral to the Story: You make a choice to be in a relationship everyday.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

Ladies who tried to convert Jim and Ben.

Jim’s first time with a lady almost made him a baby daddy.

Politics Interlude #VOTE

Tamu won’t survive the Handmaid’s Tale

Jim still thinks we are recording a YouTube video.

As you get older, relationships become more about the friendship and sharing good times.

Take lessons from your previous relationships and learn from them.

Advice to the Bad at Love crew: Don’t give up.

More advice to the Bad at Love crew: Don’t take dating too seriously, don’t expect anything and be OK with being single.

Tamu has plenty of LEGITIMATE reasons not to date.

Ben’s Advice to Bad at Love Listeners: Share this podcast with your single male friends so they can fall in love with Mallory & Tamu!

 

 

Episode 8: How Appropriate…There’s a Wedding Outside!

In this week’s episode, Tamu and Mallory discuss the movie Sliding Doors and how their lives (both romantic and personal) might have been different if they choose another life path. Of course during the discussion, a freshly married couple are outside taking  wedding photos which was taken as a fitting sign for the two romantic cynics.

Moral to the Story: The Sliding Doors versions of Mallory and Tamu are living their best lives!

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Tamu is STILL sad that the podcast is not receiving listener emails.
  • #Vote
  • New Business Idea for Amazon: Ordering weed through Alexa
  • What-ifs from the past.
  • LOVINGLY hating on the wedding photo shoot outside.
  • The many missed opportunities of Mallory and Tamu.
  • Mallory had no time for behind the scenes theater work, she wanted to Direct!
  • More tales from Tamu’s past.
  • Amaretto Sours are just wrong.
  • Mallory’s parent’s Sunday Funday.
  • Wine interlude: If you live in/or are visiting the Twin Cities, check out Twin Cities Wine Education.
  • According to Mallory, Teddy Roosevelt is a type of white.
  • Tamu is a terrible human.
  • Sex and the City Question: What is OK to do before someone says, “I Love You?”
  • Advice from Mallory: Get yourself a man who will wipe your ass when you need it.
  • If Tamu had gone forward with any of her alternative life paths, she would have never have her current life and the people in it…and this podcast *gasp*.
  • What are the jay walking laws in England?
  • Gerry is the worst!
  • Friends 2018 would be hipsters in Williamsburg & still with no black friends!
  • British people LOVE Monty Python.
  • #Vote

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Episode 7: Heartaches and Dusty Diaphragms

In this week’s episode, Mallory and Tamu explore ways to get over a relationship by watching 2001’s  Someone Like You and discussing local Minnesota rapper Dessa’s experiment with neuroscience to pinpoint the parts of her brain where emotions of love were triggered by her former lover with whom she was broken up with (but he was still in her life) for 12 years. She then used neurofeedback to train her brain to work differently.

Moral to the Story: With practice, we can find our very own Hugh Jackman.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Tamu is still butt hurt about not getting listener emails at badatlovepodcast@gmail.com
  • Dessa’s new album Chime and her older songs.
  • Dessa would have had her songs added to Tamu’s Banned@Love playlist.
  • It was cute to see life pre-internet in Someone Like You
  • New Cow Theory
  • Hugh Jackman reaffirms that we should have fun.
  • Protect your holes.
  • Back in the 2000s no one believed in padding.
  • It is easier to run than to be vulnerable.
  • Beyoncé don’t play.
  • Plan to internet date around the world.

Read about Dessa’s brain scan

Listen to Dessa’a new album Chime

 

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Episode 6.2: Mallory, The Bachelorette Cynic

In the exciting second part of this thrilling episode, Mallory continues to watch the contesticles get out of cars and drink, and dunk basketballs, and critique each other’s clothes in the name of “love”.

Moral to the Story: Be honest because telling people in advance you have warrants, are a homophobe, a racist, a virgin, or, a persistent gentleman will surely still get you on a romance reality competition show.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Mallory had REAL issues with Jake from Minneapolis.
  • What is your patronus? The new pick up line for the zillennials? Perennials? Whatever the new millennials are called.
  • Shout out to Shoulda Swiped Left Podcast for keeping it real about the dating world.