Flutter: We Are Enough As We Are – Deal With It

The amazing Awkwafina talks about dating, not fitting the “ideal type”, and embracing her true self in Vogue’s online series, “Sad Hot Girls“. This of course resonated with the Bad at Love ladies and they found quite a bit discuss.

Moral to the Story: You know yourself as well as you know yourself.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Tamu found that she had to compromise her sadness while in relationships.
  • Stupidly taking care of people who were capable of taking care of themselves.
  • Tamu had to learn how to figure out life in Minnesota alone because Sven/Bjorn (she can’t remember anymore!) was a jerk about it.
  • Tamu fortunately dodged Minnesota Nice.
  • Podcast Shout Out: Dinner for One check out this truly honest and witty podcast about a woman who moved to Paris for love, and when that didn’t work out, decided to make a live for herself in France. Also, she makes amazing French dishes for herself.
  • Tamu’s dinner for one podcast variation would be assorted Minnesota hot dishes.
  • Canning for one might be a better fit.
  • Mallory’s friends represent MN hard.
  • In Minnesota school lunches were primarily hot dishes.
  • Mallory refuses to compromise who she is, yet she consistently sabotages herself in relationships.
  • The joys of dating whilst brown.
  • Picture Christmas cards are a Midwest thing.
  • Bomb Idea: “Sad” Single Ladies Photo Christmas cards
  • On dates, Mallory tones down her feminism and political leanings, then she cranks it up to 11 if the dude turns out to be an asshole.
  • Mallory’s compromises with her family.
  • Mallory doesn’t suppress her geek chicness.
  • Mallory has changed her outlook on non-nerd/gamers because fresh blood can change the culture.
  • Mallory realizes she may be too rigid when it comes to being herself.
  • If Mallory didn’t have a fur baby, she would have left the country already.
  • Life of single fur baby motherhood.
  • Mallory’s parents are amazing.
  • Tamu not longer wants to be accommodating.
  • If you know Tamu is dating a murderer, tell her!

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Flutter: Bad@Love’s 1st Annual “Creepy” Spooktacular Moments in Dating

The dates get creepier and the reading gets harder as the wine keeps flowing.

Moral to the Story: Let’s be respectful on dates and don’t assume you know everything. Also, know when to leave a date.

Other Fun Topics Discussed: 

  • Mallory is a footist.
  • Mallory’s creepy clapper date also smelled like cabbage.
  • That time Tamu had someone follow her home from high school.

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Flutter: Bad@Love’s 1st Annual Awkward Spooktacular Moments in Dating

Halloween season is kicking off with a bang thanks to the brave women and men who submitted their awkward date stories.

There were so many responses to requests for tales from dating that Tamu & Mallory ended up breaking them into three separate categories; Awkward, Creepy, and Scary.  Enjoy these awkward dating moments.

Moral to the Story: Yes, people can be awkward when it comes to dating and finding love; but, let’s treat one another with respect so we can all laugh about it later.

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Episode 9.1: Bad@Love’s Summer Beach Read: Hollywood Wives – (aka, Horrible, Horrible People)

Yes, summer is just about over, but that is about how long it took Mallory to read one of Tamu’s favorite author’s, Jackie Collins’ classic,  Hollywood Wives. Since the book was very long, this will be another two-parter.

Morals to the Story: Go down on one another, and, don’t let anyone into your house.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • There were too many characters for Mallory.
  • Everyone’s life was tragic.
  • Podcast Shout Out: Mouse and Weens living their Hollywood and San Diego lives. Please checkout their hilarious podcast.
  • Hollywood Wives contains loads of pedophilia.
  • Hollywood Wives contains homophobia – 80s style!
  • Mallory had to make a flow chart to track all of the characters.
  • Women deserve respect – even in 1984.
  • Karen’s nipples are erotic.
  • George Michael’s Father Figure is problematic.
  • Hollywood Wives was an ABC mini series featuring many famous stars of the day.
  • Buying babies from brokers.
  • Hollywood Wives contains loads of incest and child abuse.
  • There are always consequences for actions.
  • Mallory’s Theory: Breach babies are murderers.
  • Vaginism: An Education – learn all about vaginal spasms
  • When you have exotic sex, strange things can happen.
  • Tamu’s deep love for Jackie Collins and her writing style.
  • Mallory’s deep hatred for all of the characters in this book.
  • Tamu’s Aha! Moment: Jackie Collins books trained her for Sons of Anarchy which trained her for Game of Thrones.
  • Mallory finds Van Helsing to be complex, yet intriguing.

Apologies: Eating was occurring during the recording of this episode, along with much drinking, so sorry for the chewing and talking with our mouths full –we classy!

Flutter: The Bullets We’ve Dodged

In this week’s episode, Tamu & Mallory brave the heat to share their stories of the one that got away.

For Tamu, it is Idris Elba but, it is his fault. For Mallory, it is Neil Patrick Harris (which is not going to work for obvious reasons).

Moral to the Story: Have more fun, take some chances, give some handies, get some handies..safely.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Being scared to ruin things.
  • Missed vibes.
  • Summer goals for hookups – not really gonna happen because someone is gonna catch feelings.
  • Release the fear.
  • Korean dramas = Pride and Prejudice + Motorcycle Deaths
  • Veronica Mars has too many blonde dudes.
  • Mallory does not trust emotions.
  • Mallory scared she will fall in love with a Trump supporter.
  • Jurassic Chomp from DQ is how Mallory learned that there was a Jurassic Park movie coming out.
  • It would be awesome to friends with Idris.
  • What would Idris’ music playlist be? 
  • Tamu’s love of Bollywood.
  • Tamu has not listened to Hamilton’s soundtrack.
  • Celebrity crush playlists.
  • Tamu is still butthurt that no one is emailing: badatlovepodcast@gmail.com.

Check out our playlist; What Would Idris Listen To: A Playlist on Spotify

P.S.: There a ghost that likes to visit during recordings. If you hear some interference, it is ”Frank”.

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Flutter: Dream Knight – Segments of a Lifetime Movie

In this week’s Flutter, Mallory & Tamu explore Mallory’s love of Korean dramas by watching Dream Knight.

First off,  apologies for not knowing who GOT7  were. Also, it was difficult to decipher which member was which because they change their hair color for every photo shoot.

Moral to the Story: Fall down, expect saving, dance badly after months of practice, and, be aware that your dolls came to life.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Tamu just doesn’t understand.
  • Dangerous motorcycle dance sequences.
  • Infinite montages…one at Popeye’s Chicken!
  • Tamu cannot remember Stomp the Yard.
  • The perils of walking with one crutch.
  • Early onset paralysis with muscle stiffness.
  • The origins of Twilight lip biting.
  • Dance festival = bad dancing.
  • Mallory cannot explain her love of K-dramas.
  • K-Pop Idol fans are hardcore devoted.
  • The music of GOT7.
  • Eye smiling.

 

Flutter: Bad at Love @ The Movies – “I Feel Pretty”

In this week’s Flutter, Mallory and Tamu discuss a movie they saw back in April; Amy Schumer’s, I Feel Pretty.

Moral to the Story: Do whatever you think makes you feel pretty, and see Avengers: Infinity War.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Northern Spark
  • Winter because its Minnesota
  • The importance of telling your friends when you’ve suffered a head injury.

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Episode 4, Part 2: Mallory’s Poor, Dark Closet

In this week’s episode, Tamu & Mallory dig deep into Mallory’s school-aged treasures and talk about her teenage crushes.

We learn about her love of Heath Ledger, David Bowie, Jeff Goldblum (of course), and Orlando Bloom, a.k.a., Legolas. Turns out, Mr. Bloom held a special place in her heart for a number of years as we discover from all of the assorted Lord of the Rings posters, trading cards, and assorted memorabilia she collected.

Mallory shares her drawings from art high school and, much like Tamu’s journals and poetry, they provide amazing insights about a young lady, who really wanted to be a warrior, who loves dragons, and yearned for the heart of one hot, blonde elf; Legolas.

Moral to the Story: Crushes are fun!

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Anime character development.
  • Mallory’s high-school Spanish project.
  • Spike Spiegel from Cowboy Bebop.
  • Mallory has a hand-signed note from JK Rowling!
  • Lawyer braids
  • Mallory’s ocean wedding to Orlando Bloom, complete with dolphin.

Apologies: We used to record at the library and every time we did, we would get interrupted. This was our last recording session there and we thought we made it unscathed…we were wrong! Enjoy that announcement at the end!

Episode 4 Part 1: Banned@Love – Music Edition

In this week’s episode, Tamu & Mallory explore how music has shaped and will continue to shape their lives.

Tamu digs through the crates of her music collection to reveal the love songs that she banned from her ears and mind after the end of her tumultuous relationships with Sven and Bjorn. The first song on the list, Prince’s Adore, was released the same year Mallory was born, which made Tamu feel so young and vibrant!

The 7-year ban has been lifted and these songs are joyfully part of her playlist rotation once again.

Check out the Banned@Love playlist below:

Mallory shares the fact the she has incredible disdain for Owl City’s Fireflies, and had a weird fondness for Jewel. As a youth, she also played hours upon hours of video games whilst listening to Christina Aguilera’s 2002 album, Stripped.

Moral to the Story: You learn so much about a person from looking at their playlists.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Share the Love Wednesdays origins.
  • Tamu’s love for Sade is equal to her love of Prince.
  • Mallory REALLY liked The Proclaimers, I’m Gonna Be (500 Miles).
  • Tamu’s ex-men’s Nordic replacement names have her flummoxed.
  • Skryim, Dragon Age, and Zelda game music are great inspirations for fantasy writing and jewelry making.
  • Mallory has a future career as a video game DJ.
  • Alternative name for the podcast: Practically Oversharing.

Sorry Not Sorry: There is a lot of singing that is tremendously off key. Tamu knows she is not destined for Idol or The Voice, but it is her show, so deal!

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Is Prom Important? Thoughts by Mallory.

I tried looking up the history of prom this week. There were articles from Bustle, Time, and the all-time lazy favorite, Wikipedia.

I was genuinely curious about why these things have been going on for so long, why there is still pressure on teenagers for them, and what the patriarchy had to do with it (a constant question, honestly).

It was sort of what I expected. Back in the day (the technical term), there were grand balls for ladies where they’d be brought out officially into public, essentially a time that would declare that this woman was now available to charm into marrying. Since balls didn’t stick around forever, and public schools were The Thing, to me it made sense that they continued to use the same sort of idea, but for everyone to play pretend that they were adults because, hey, you dress up nice, maybe have a fancy dinner, have a nice car…

But the proms, from what I’ve read, went from simply wearing your Sunday Best to rather extravagant extremes. While Tamu and I paid small amounts to look great, and may have had those around us create their own dresses/tuxes, the typical high schools that my friends went to? Some people were spending $500 on a dress!

And that’s where I ask the question: Is a prom so important to spend such a fortune?

I can see it from both points. This is a day for most teenagers that is a passage of going into adulthood. It should be enjoyed, celebrated, and, quite frankly, can be quite the ego boost when you’ve bought your clothes and are surrounded by the fancy attire. Although Tamu and I didn’t have Prom King/Queen, that’s probably fun, too. Everyone voting democratically for a monarchy. Plus, tradition. It’s been going on for so many years, it’s a notable event in every single novel/movie/television show that depicts high school students. And it’s a popular enough tradition that it’s basically world-wide.

However, it is also…just one night that, while I personally remember it being fun, it wasn’t the highlight of my youth. It isn’t in the top ten moments of my life. And I cannot imagine spending so much money on something before starting college–nothing like starting out in debt to more debt (although, maybe people would argue that’s just America. *bah-dum-dum tishhhh*). I guess my main point here would be that if I hadn’t gone to prom, I don’t think my life would have changed significantly.

And yet… I guess I’m still in favor of prom when it comes down to it. I have seen some really amazing things come out of this tradition, mostly as it becomes less traditional. For instance, prom is also considered a time to show off yourself with your couple. While this can be too much pressure for those of us without a partner, many LGBTQ teenagers are going with their partners.

In the end, the importance of prom is what you make it, I suppose. Tamu and I had a great time with friends, dancing and laughing. I have heard stories of terrible proms and fantastic proms. I know people who married the person they went to prom with. If you didn’t go, it probably didn’t change your life for the worse. And if you did? You’ve got a memory long faded that will emerge once again at your 10/20/30 year reunion, complete with photos you’d probably well forget anyway.

What about your prom? Let us know if you had a Pretty in Pink situation, or if you forewent the event to watching a film instead.