Episode 46: Daily Mental Breakdowns

Let’s face it, it has been a pretty crap week for women. Mallory and Tamu talk about the travesty that was the indictment of the police officer who shot through Breonna Taylor’s walls, but not for shooting her. They also touch on a little tiny news story about women on the verge of losing all of their reproductive rights with the new conservative Supreme Court. No biggie, right?!

Moral to the Story: *sigh* History is repeating itself people, we have to come together and fight as one.

Episode 45: This is Not Antiracism Woodstock with Antiracist Parenting Podcast

Mallory and Tamu were joined by Hannah and SooJin of the Antiracist Parenting Podcast in the first of what we can hope are many conversations about what Antiracism is, how to related to individuals who might not be “there” and how it is possible for us all to move about the world as Antiracist humans.

Moral to the Story: The meaning of Sankofa – “You must reach back to reclaim that which is lost in order to move forward.”

So Tired of Having this be a Moral to the Story: Arrest the police officers who murdered Breonna Taylor!

Other Fun Topics Discussed

  • History is important.
  • If you do nothing, you are being passively racist.
  • What about white folks? Racism dehumanizes white folks, once they realizing they are losing their humanity, they will stop dehumanizing BIPOC.
  • On cancel culture: some things need to be cancelled. Itis a step forward towards accountability.
  • How to deal with loved ones who might see things differently: live life where your values align. To be in relation with people whose values don’t align can be done up to a point.
  • Being intentional and deliberate in what you are doing is the key to managing through complex relationships.

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Episode 44: An Unrequited Love Affair with America

This week, well, really two weeks ago, Tamu and Mallory discussed Black America’s unrequited love affair with the rest of America. Mallory was also having a tough time dealing with the world that week; Jacob Blake’s shooting left her feeling hopeless. While Tamu was dismayed and truly disgusted by the naturalization stunt the RNC decided to portray on TV, hope was on the horizon because Doc Rivers made her dad decide register to vote for the first time in his life.

Moral to the Story: If Tamu’s dad is pissed off enough to vote, we all should be pissed off enough to vote!

So Tired of Having this be a Moral to the Story: Arrest the police officers who murdered Breonna Taylor!

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Katy Perry & Orlando Bloom’s new baby, Daisy Dove.
  • The shooting of Jacob Blake.
  • White Supremacy’s newest teen murderer.
  • Mistaken suicide rioting in Minneapolis.
  • All Hail Sports: WNBA, NBA, MLB, NHL and Naomi Osaka boycotting for Black Lives Matter.
  • Tone deaf Jared.
  • Blacks and their unrequited love of America: As Doc Rivers eloquently stated, ” It’s amazing why we keep loving this country and this country does not love us back.”
  • The unmitigated gall of Daniel Cameron, Kentucky’s Attorney General, preening for the cameras at the RNC and using Breonna’s name as a talking point instead of bringing justice to Breonna.

Episode 42: These Letters Mean Something

In a week of taking the good with the bad, the bad sort of won out for Tamu & Mallory. With the Congress taking a vacation in the middle of the pandemic and leaving millions questioning whether they can keep a roof over their heads and feed themselves and families, the crushing battle for the vote landing in the lap of the US Postal Service and the rebirth of birtherism; it is a wonder they made it to Friday with some semblance of sanity. At least they share a theme song with Kamala Harris and QVC.

Moral to the Story: Your vote means something! Let’s do what needs to be done and get to voting early.

Never-ending Very Special Moral to the Story: Arrest the police officers who murdered Breonna Taylor!

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Good Humor stops having racism bring the kids to the trucks. They teamed up with Rza of Wu Tang Clan for a reboot of the Good Humor ice cream truck jingle.
  • Mallory is becoming the Bob Ross of watercolors.
  • Mallory goes down a rabbit hole with the 1997 Kevin Costner film, The Postman
  • Tamu reads a poem.

Episode 39: Cognitive Eruption

This week, the healing continues! Tamu and Mallory discuss the insanity that is the world we live in and try to figure out what’s wrong with kids (and grown-ass adults) these days. Mallory also explains what HIPAA is so folks can stop using it incorrectly when defending their “right” not to wear a mask.

Moral to the Story: In less than 100 days, you have a choice to make, go out and make the right one. VOTE!

Second Moral to the Story: Wear a G-damn mask!

Very Special Moral to the Story: Arrest the police officers who murdered Breonna Taylor!

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • The younger set (and older set) and their desire for pleasure over health and empathy for others.
  • Autocratic police states are the new norm.
  • Person. Woman. Man. Camera. TV.
  • Yes, Kanye is problematic, but let’s be mindful about mental health.
  • The new Netflix show: Indian Matchmaking
  • AOC is not here for the bullshit.

Episode 29: How to Date Men When You Hate Men: The Book of Contradictions

We read Blythe Roberson’s How to Date Men When You Hate Men basically because Mallory hates dudes and we want to get to the bottom of it.

Moral to the Story: Times are a changin’! You can write your own story when it comes to relationships.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Get to Know Us: Relationship flashbacks. What do you do when you are triggered into a relationship memory?
  • Wish them well even if they are assholes.
  • #WePodcastLikeThis
  • Hair Colorist Shout Out –  to Shelly Rae of Paper Hair Salon.
  • Everyone wanted Mallory to read this book.
  • Mallory can’t get past the hate because of her trust issues.
  • Blythe might need Talkspace.
  • You can chart your own path when it comes to love.
  • Is the fairy tale real? Maybe, but it will end because love is a false construct.
  • Pop culture dictates the rules.
  • What does dating mean?
  • The group hang.
  • Is it so wrong to have phone conversations in 2019?
  • Hold fast to your deal breakers.
  • Have multiple crushes.
  • The 2 question rule.

Episode 14: Nappily Ever After: A Little Bit Disappointing…A Lot

Tamu and Mallory read Trisha R. Thomas’s Nappily Ever After and compare it to the Netflix  adaptation. Let’s just say there were high expectations which were sadly not met. However, both the book and movie are pioneers for moving natural hair into the mainstream; hopefully the next movies and books about natural hair will be even better.

Moral to the Story: We are beautiful regardless of what comes out of our heads.

Other Fun Topics Discussed: 

  • The protagonist is really a selfish human.
  • She cut her hair off and had no new growth as a person.
  • Mallory liked the first chapter of the book.
  • Communication is important in relationships.
  • Don’t get blasted and share feelings because you may end up engaged.
  • Book break up vs. Insecure breakup between Issa & Lawrence.
  • Mallory wondered if the movie was for white people to get an idea of black women & their hair.
  • The movie’s theme is “if a black man approves”
  • Most Ridiculous Movie Quote: “Men want realness”
  • Anything with a dick can still be a dick.
  • Women & beauty standards.
  • Sex in the shower can be a thing on wash day.
  • Miraculously Sanaa’s character can braid, but was unable to do her own hair.
  • Don’t assume because someone is wearing a scarf that they have cancer.
  • Mallory found the sexism in the movie!
  • Tamu talks about the moment when she cut her hair off.
  • Mallory finds the misogyny in the final pool scene between the father and mother!
  • Bad@Love Remakes this Movie: Would have been better to see someone with more power in their hands.
  • Myth Busted: Going natural is not cheap, nor is it quick.
  • The World According to Mallory: Online dating = Love resumes so use grammar and spell check.
  • Tamu compares the movie to bad tequila.

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Episode 12: Bad@Love @ The Movies “Crazy Rich Asians”

Well, at the time it was timely, but now, not so much. Tamu & Mallory headed to the theaters to see Crazy Rich Asians. 

Moral to the Story: It will be out on DVD/streaming pretty soon. Buy it, rent it, stream it often so we can get more movies of color out into the world – or at least in America.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • This movie is Black Panther for Asians.
  • These are the most rich people EVER.
  • How do you not tell someone you are dating what they are getting into when it comes to your family?
  • Once you find out, why not Google for more information?
  • Tamu would have broken up with hottie.
  • Tamu questions the NY credibility of Constance Wu’s character. Hit them in the face with the damn fish!
  • Being other impacts all facets of life.
  • Everyone hates Americans.
  • Mallory has a hard time with the notion of being “crazy rich”.
  • Even if you tick off all the boxes, being American is hobbling.
  • If Bad@Love made this movie: Possible titles; Tragic Sad Americans or Stupid Poor Americans.
  • Henry Golding’s character was problematic.
  • Breaking Stereotypes: Hunky Tall Asians
  • The most over-the-top wedding EVER.
  • What is sacrifice?
  • Bad@Love tries to escape America by Dating Abroad: Should they consider adding super rich Asians to the list?
  • Tamu didn’t know her babysitter’s sons were Neo-Nazis (she was a kid!)

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Episode 11: How to Become a Vagilante

For their very first Halloween episode, Tamu and Mallory decided to watch two seemingly different, yet similar movies; 2007s Teeth and 1987s Fatal Attraction.

Moral to the Story: Maybe keep your dick inside of yourself.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • A lot of time was devoted to determine where the teeth are located.
  • Vagina Dentata
  • Marriage masturbation fantasy.
  • Toby is a fuck boy.
  • Masturbation would have solved a lot in Teeth.
  • Used sheets in a cave in a big “NO”.
  • The dog eats a peen.
  • What if Glenn Close’s character in Fatal Attraction had vagina dentata?
  • Poor dog. Poor rabbit. Oh well Glenn Close.
  • Women are ALWAYS the unhinged ones in these movies.
  • Dan is also a fuck boy.
  • Tamu wishes she had teeth in her vagina.
  • Mallory would take having teeth in her vagina too far.
  • Mallory Googles vagina dentata.
  • Garfunkel & Oates’  Fuck me in the ass because I love Jesus
  • Mallory ruins Moana for herself.
  • Bad@Love unanimously voted for divorcing Michael Douglas.

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Flutter: Bad@Love’s 1st Annual “Creepy” Spooktacular Moments in Dating

The dates get creepier and the reading gets harder as the wine keeps flowing.

Moral to the Story: Let’s be respectful on dates and don’t assume you know everything. Also, know when to leave a date.

Other Fun Topics Discussed: 

  • Mallory is a footist.
  • Mallory’s creepy clapper date also smelled like cabbage.
  • That time Tamu had someone follow her home from high school.

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