Episode 21: Dirty Deeds, Dirty John

After watching the Bravo mini series Dirty John, and listening to the Wondery podcast that inspired it, Tamu had to have Mallory at least listen to the podcast.

Moral to the Story: It is easy to ignore red flags when you really want something or someone.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Learn about us: Mallory asked a morbid question about what you want done with your body after you die. It’s either fireworks, trees, space travel, or diamonds for us.
  • The More You Know About Mallory’s Friends: Beware of the pepper shakers at Denny’s because there could be ashes in it!
  • Seriously, Mallory, Your Friends are Strange: Beware of engagement rings because they could be the ashes of a dead woman trying to posses you.
  • #WePodcastLikeThis – Tamu figured out the Bluetooth remote for the tripod.
  • Umm, are we still #WePodcastLikeThis? – Mallory notices the camera is still taking snaps…whoops!
  • Wait, there is a Minnesota Dirty John? – Yes! And he has an Oxygen Seduced By Evil episode.
  • Tamu explains what OurTime is to Mallory.
  • Tamu concludes that there is no good time to date.
  • Red Flag Limits: The Game – Mallory got to the third red flag of the list of red flags from the Dirty John podcast, Tamu ended at the first one.
  • We take issue with the extreme forgiveness of Debra’s mom.
  • Hard to wrap our brains around the fact the Debra forgave John of his sins but never could forgive her brother-in-law for killing her sister.
  • Victim blaming lesson: It is easy to judge when it is not your experience. So stop it.
  • The Sad Truth for the Ladies of Bad@Love Podcast: We will always be suspicious and cynical in order to never be “taken” by love.
  • TV DOES Help You Learn: The Walking Dead provided Terra with the zombie training she needed to survive her attack from John. #doubletap
  • Mallory is a magnet for questionable dudes.
  • Tamu talks about a red flag laden date.

Podcast Shout Outs:

  • Looking for a new book to read or want to learn about up and coming authors? Check out Shelf Addiction Podcast.
  • Ever wonder what happens to the characters of your favorite romantic movie after the credits stop rolling? Listen to Happily Ever Aftermath for an exploration of love and relationships in movies.

 

 

 

Flutter: Men on Tinder: Dating Conundrum

Continuing on the Tinder theme from last week’s episode, we break down Lane Moore’s Guardian article, “What I’ve learned about men from from countless hours of Tinder”.

Moral to the Story: Think of dating as the cute, yet uncomfortable shoes you have to wear to find love.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Dudes will never reach out to you quickly…EVER.
  • Different strokes for different folks.
  • Mallory admits to hating dudes right now.

Episode 18: Swiper, No Swiping!

This week we pick up where episode 17 left off and dive into the current dating culture by watching the HBO documentary, “Swiped: Hooking up in the Digital Age.” Let‘s just say, dating is hard out in these streets.

Moral to the Story: Don’t hate the player, change the game.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • The drunken adventures of Mallory and Tamu.
  • Epic side bar: Mallory learns the book she read as a child called, “Little Black Sambo” is indeed racist.
  • Dicktures and Pusstures are for YOUR EYES ONLY, no sharing.
  • New word alert: Tinderoni – dude whores
  • Just because a dick is flaccid, it doesn’t mean it is not riddle with disease. Protect yourself from STDs and STIs.
  • Kids need to be educated in schools about sex.
  • Porn is not reality.
  • Change the culture by teaching men not to rape.
  • No one knows how to talk to one another these days, in the 90s talking on the phone wasn’t considered sociopathy.
  • Be OK with your everyday.
  • Check tagged photos to know what is really going on in a person’s life or what they are hiding.

 

Podcast Shout Outs:

Flutter: What We’ve Learned About Love

It has been a year since the ladies of Bad at Love Podcast started their quest to bust down the myth of the fairytale and perhaps become better people in the process. So, where are they now?

Moral to the Story: We deserve respect and to have people in our lives who make us better.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Mallory is less angry than she was a year ago and has learned she can walk away from an ignorant comment or stupid conversation.
  • Tamu is working on being fine with being alone. Crime shows and documentaries makes her feel more OK about being single cause “bitches be crazy”.
  • Mallory is content with her situation and doesn’t feel the need to go online dating.
  • Tamu feels dating is a lot of work.
  • The Oxygen show “Snapped” should be re-titled, “Snapped: Love Can Go So Awry.”
  • Both ladies feel like finding a special someone with useful skill sets in home and auto repair would be amazing.
  • Next steps: slather on some copulance and head to Home Depot for a handy man or O’Reilly’s Auto Parts for a mechanic.

Episode 14: Nappily Ever After: A Little Bit Disappointing…A Lot

Tamu and Mallory read Trisha R. Thomas’s Nappily Ever After and compare it to the Netflix  adaptation. Let’s just say there were high expectations which were sadly not met. However, both the book and movie are pioneers for moving natural hair into the mainstream; hopefully the next movies and books about natural hair will be even better.

Moral to the Story: We are beautiful regardless of what comes out of our heads.

Other Fun Topics Discussed: 

  • The protagonist is really a selfish human.
  • She cut her hair off and had no new growth as a person.
  • Mallory liked the first chapter of the book.
  • Communication is important in relationships.
  • Don’t get blasted and share feelings because you may end up engaged.
  • Book break up vs. Insecure breakup between Issa & Lawrence.
  • Mallory wondered if the movie was for white people to get an idea of black women & their hair.
  • The movie’s theme is “if a black man approves”
  • Most Ridiculous Movie Quote: “Men want realness”
  • Anything with a dick can still be a dick.
  • Women & beauty standards.
  • Sex in the shower can be a thing on wash day.
  • Miraculously Sanaa’s character can braid, but was unable to do her own hair.
  • Don’t assume because someone is wearing a scarf that they have cancer.
  • Mallory found the sexism in the movie!
  • Tamu talks about the moment when she cut her hair off.
  • Mallory finds the misogyny in the final pool scene between the father and mother!
  • Bad@Love Remakes this Movie: Would have been better to see someone with more power in their hands.
  • Myth Busted: Going natural is not cheap, nor is it quick.
  • The World According to Mallory: Online dating = Love resumes so use grammar and spell check.
  • Tamu compares the movie to bad tequila.

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Flutter: Irresistible Mistakes…!

This week, Tamu and Mallory make unsurprising romantic choices when they play Irresistible Mistakes an online dating simulation game from Voltage, Inc. An otome game, this story-based game is targeted towards women.

Moral to the Story: Read a book, watch a movie, or play The Sims 4 instead.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

The main character wakes up from a night of dirty, sexy times and DOES NOT SHOWER!

The use of …! for everything the main character is thinking.

Not shockingly Tamu ended up with someone who has closed himself off to love.

Unsurprisingly Mallory ended up with someone whose heart is unavailable.

Mallory Recommends: There is a pigeon simulation game called Hatoful Boyfriend that is her FAVORITE.  She says to keep playing, it isn’t how you think.

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Flutter: Bad@Love’s 1st Annual “Scary” Spooktacular Moments in Dating

Tuck in because these are truly scary and uncomfortable moments shared by fantastically brave individuals.

Moral to the Story: Dating shouldn’t be scary for any of us. Once again, let’s be respectful of our choice to say, “No” and move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea!

Special Thanks To These Amazing Podcasts for Sharing Their Stories:

Please support these podcasts by listening, reviewing and sharing with others.

Flutter: Bad@Love’s 1st Annual “Creepy” Spooktacular Moments in Dating

The dates get creepier and the reading gets harder as the wine keeps flowing.

Moral to the Story: Let’s be respectful on dates and don’t assume you know everything. Also, know when to leave a date.

Other Fun Topics Discussed: 

  • Mallory is a footist.
  • Mallory’s creepy clapper date also smelled like cabbage.
  • That time Tamu had someone follow her home from high school.

Special Thanks To These Amazing Podcasts for Sharing Their Stories:

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Flutter: We Met on Plenty of Fish…Farmer’s Only…OK, Grinder

The fun continues with our friends Jim & Ben. We ask them how they met and their opinions on love and relationships.

Moral to the Story: You make a choice to be in a relationship everyday.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

Ladies who tried to convert Jim and Ben.

Jim’s first time with a lady almost made him a baby daddy.

Politics Interlude #VOTE

Tamu won’t survive the Handmaid’s Tale

Jim still thinks we are recording a YouTube video.

As you get older, relationships become more about the friendship and sharing good times.

Take lessons from your previous relationships and learn from them.

Advice to the Bad at Love crew: Don’t give up.

More advice to the Bad at Love crew: Don’t take dating too seriously, don’t expect anything and be OK with being single.

Tamu has plenty of LEGITIMATE reasons not to date.

Ben’s Advice to Bad at Love Listeners: Share this podcast with your single male friends so they can fall in love with Mallory & Tamu!

 

 

Episode 7: Heartaches and Dusty Diaphragms

In this week’s episode, Mallory and Tamu explore ways to get over a relationship by watching 2001’s  Someone Like You and discussing local Minnesota rapper Dessa’s experiment with neuroscience to pinpoint the parts of her brain where emotions of love were triggered by her former lover with whom she was broken up with (but he was still in her life) for 12 years. She then used neurofeedback to train her brain to work differently.

Moral to the Story: With practice, we can find our very own Hugh Jackman.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Tamu is still butt hurt about not getting listener emails at badatlovepodcast@gmail.com
  • Dessa’s new album Chime and her older songs.
  • Dessa would have had her songs added to Tamu’s Banned@Love playlist.
  • It was cute to see life pre-internet in Someone Like You
  • New Cow Theory
  • Hugh Jackman reaffirms that we should have fun.
  • Protect your holes.
  • Back in the 2000s no one believed in padding.
  • It is easier to run than to be vulnerable.
  • Beyoncé don’t play.
  • Plan to internet date around the world.

Read about Dessa’s brain scan

Listen to Dessa’a new album Chime

 

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