Episode 19: We Are Probably Too Cynical for this Book

This week we read Lane Moore’s book, How To Be Alone If You Want To, And Even If You Don’t and realized that while we may agreed with some of the concepts,  we might just be too cynical for this book.

Moral to the Story: Be the person you want to be/see, but with boundaries because people can still be dicks.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Get to know Tamu and Mallory: Mallory has 4 pairs of shoes and refuses to buy a pesky 5th pair because she would have the burden of packing it when she moves.
  • Special Thanks: To CDot from The Meme-ing of it All Podcast for sharing her idea of using a UBS adapter so that we can use multiple microphones instead of one. We are forever grateful.
  • #WePodcastLikeThis: We can’t take selfies for shit.
  • Recognize your gifts. Sometimes the universe provides you with what you need.
  • Look past the fear of connecting.
  • Stranger Luck aided in Mallory’s trip to Europe.
  • You can say “no” to emotional and energy vampires.
  • Sometimes people are unable to give you want you need because they simply cannot relate.
  • If someone can’t understand you and your sadness…run.
  • Regardless of how strong you think you are, you still need people.
  • Mallory and Tamu agree to be each other’s emergency contacts.
  • Online friends are wonderful, however, it is still nice to have people close by.
  • We fundamentally disagree with Lane on fairy tale love.
  • Mallory LOVES Leslie Knope.
  • Stop setting high expectations: Tamu tells a Sven story.
  • Save Money and Energy: Only buy lingerie for yourself so you don’t associate it with past partners.
  • Tamu’s landing strip story–her lady was never the same.
  • You don’t always have to be “on” to be “normal”.
  • Mallory LOVES Indigo.
  • People love animals way more than they love humans.

Podcast Shout Outs:

Flutter: What We’ve Learned About Love

It has been a year since the ladies of Bad at Love Podcast started their quest to bust down the myth of the fairytale and perhaps become better people in the process. So, where are they now?

Moral to the Story: We deserve respect and to have people in our lives who make us better.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Mallory is less angry than she was a year ago and has learned she can walk away from an ignorant comment or stupid conversation.
  • Tamu is working on being fine with being alone. Crime shows and documentaries makes her feel more OK about being single cause “bitches be crazy”.
  • Mallory is content with her situation and doesn’t feel the need to go online dating.
  • Tamu feels dating is a lot of work.
  • The Oxygen show “Snapped” should be re-titled, “Snapped: Love Can Go So Awry.”
  • Both ladies feel like finding a special someone with useful skill sets in home and auto repair would be amazing.
  • Next steps: slather on some copulance and head to Home Depot for a handy man or O’Reilly’s Auto Parts for a mechanic.

Flutter: We Met on Plenty of Fish…Farmer’s Only…OK, Grinder

The fun continues with our friends Jim & Ben. We ask them how they met and their opinions on love and relationships.

Moral to the Story: You make a choice to be in a relationship everyday.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

Ladies who tried to convert Jim and Ben.

Jim’s first time with a lady almost made him a baby daddy.

Politics Interlude #VOTE

Tamu won’t survive the Handmaid’s Tale

Jim still thinks we are recording a YouTube video.

As you get older, relationships become more about the friendship and sharing good times.

Take lessons from your previous relationships and learn from them.

Advice to the Bad at Love crew: Don’t give up.

More advice to the Bad at Love crew: Don’t take dating too seriously, don’t expect anything and be OK with being single.

Tamu has plenty of LEGITIMATE reasons not to date.

Ben’s Advice to Bad at Love Listeners: Share this podcast with your single male friends so they can fall in love with Mallory & Tamu!

 

 

The Bad at Love Podcast Team

Welcome to the Bad at Love Podcast website!

It’s a work in progress. Just like ourselves. But we’re proud of what we have recorded so far, and we’re excited about the next episodes we have planned. Expect to hear some excerpts in the coming weeks.

With that, we’re excited to announce that our first official episode will be ready to listen to on March 26th, 2018! We’ll have a pre-release intro the week prior (a soft-listening, if you will), and then expect consistent updates weekly, every Monday!

But you may be wondering what Bad at Love Podcast is all about. I can point you to our about section, but I’ll go into a bit more depth for those still full of interest.

This podcast is dedicated to proving that ‘Love is not a fairy-tale, and that’s okay!’ Think of every movie, television show, song, game, or picture of romance. With few exceptions, you’ll see they can easily set up expectations bound to fail. Prince Charming does have flaws (we promise you), and so does every Princess (we promise you). And the ever-after outcome isn’t quite the fantasy portrayed (we guarantee you).

The thing is, we can’t tell you what love is either. Love can be as simple or as complicated as one wants to make it, after all. And we as hosts aren’t exactly experts. Tamu is a Gen-Xer in her early forties yet to find a forever romantic love. And Mallory is a Millennial in her early thirties only just discovering she’d truly allow a romantic love into her life for longer than a whim.

The first few episodes will be us setting up our own hangups and past experiences in love. We’ll be sharing journal entries, poetry, movies and shows that shaped us, and even have a love tarot reading. We’ll have guests that are in love, optimistic in love, have lost love, and whatever is between. While also watching or playing those movies, television shows, songs, games, or pictures of romance.

Expect laughter, maybe some crying, and most certainly our (possibly terrible) advice on what love is or what it means.

We also look forward to your own stories, thoughts, and input! As we go along, send everything in to our email address badatlovepodcast@gmail.com — maybe you’ll hear yourself in our next episode!

Here’s to true love!
Mallory & Tamu