Episode 25: My Life is the MMMBop Song!

This week we dig into the results of our emotional intelligence tests!

Moral to the Story: Not everyone thinks like you.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Get To Know Us: we talk about childhood songs. Tamu blows Mallory away with the disco version of “C is for Cookie” off of Sesame Street Disco Fever. Mallory remembers the racist version of “This Land is Your Land” from junior high school.
  • We can’t help but feel we broke our lovely EQ coach, Hannah.
  • #WePodcastLikeThis with Dave Matthews’ Dreaming Tree Wine with the hard to read poem.
  • Mallory’s amazingly high EQ scores would be even higher were it not for her life challenges last year, but things are on the up!
  • Tamu’s optimism score is 45, because this world is a piece of shit.
  • Mallory realizes she has mental health privilege.
  • Getting the results was nerve wrecking.
  • Mallory’s version of flexibility is not being a doormat.
  • Tamu is optimistic for everyone except herself.
  • Question of the Day: How do you become optimistic in a shitty world?
  • You cannot have a perspective in reality & be optimistic, you are lying to yourself.
  • Scores reflected the environments that Mallory & Tamu grew up in.
  • Mallory talks about her mom’s insane optimism that leeched into her psyche which is positive — even if she doesn’t see it that way.
  • Mallory saved a jumper’s life.
  • MMMBop has lyrics!
  • Note to Dave Matthews: We don’t understand you!
  • Mallory’s family issues have gotten better but, when it comes to dating relationships, she has to work on trust.

 

Flutter: Always be Prepared to Cheat

This week we talk about cheating and what is means to each of us, respectively.

Moral to the Story: It is imperative to have open communication in a relationship.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Is the old adage, “Once a cheater, always a cheater” true?
  • Tamu questions her experience of cheating on White 1 (still getting the damn names confused!)
  • A chair falls in the middle of the episode!

Episode 19: We Are Probably Too Cynical for this Book

This week we read Lane Moore’s book, How To Be Alone If You Want To, And Even If You Don’t and realized that while we may agreed with some of the concepts,  we might just be too cynical for this book.

Moral to the Story: Be the person you want to be/see, but with boundaries because people can still be dicks.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Get to know Tamu and Mallory: Mallory has 4 pairs of shoes and refuses to buy a pesky 5th pair because she would have the burden of packing it when she moves.
  • Special Thanks: To CDot from The Meme-ing of it All Podcast for sharing her idea of using a UBS adapter so that we can use multiple microphones instead of one. We are forever grateful.
  • #WePodcastLikeThis: We can’t take selfies for shit.
  • Recognize your gifts. Sometimes the universe provides you with what you need.
  • Look past the fear of connecting.
  • Stranger Luck aided in Mallory’s trip to Europe.
  • You can say “no” to emotional and energy vampires.
  • Sometimes people are unable to give you want you need because they simply cannot relate.
  • If someone can’t understand you and your sadness…run.
  • Regardless of how strong you think you are, you still need people.
  • Mallory and Tamu agree to be each other’s emergency contacts.
  • Online friends are wonderful, however, it is still nice to have people close by.
  • We fundamentally disagree with Lane on fairy tale love.
  • Mallory LOVES Leslie Knope.
  • Stop setting high expectations: Tamu tells a Sven story.
  • Save Money and Energy: Only buy lingerie for yourself so you don’t associate it with past partners.
  • Tamu’s landing strip story–her lady was never the same.
  • You don’t always have to be “on” to be “normal”.
  • Mallory LOVES Indigo.
  • People love animals way more than they love humans.

Podcast Shout Outs:

Flutter: Men on Tinder: Dating Conundrum

Continuing on the Tinder theme from last week’s episode, we break down Lane Moore’s Guardian article, “What I’ve learned about men from from countless hours of Tinder”.

Moral to the Story: Think of dating as the cute, yet uncomfortable shoes you have to wear to find love.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Dudes will never reach out to you quickly…EVER.
  • Different strokes for different folks.
  • Mallory admits to hating dudes right now.

Episode 18: Swiper, No Swiping!

This week we pick up where episode 17 left off and dive into the current dating culture by watching the HBO documentary, “Swiped: Hooking up in the Digital Age.” Let‘s just say, dating is hard out in these streets.

Moral to the Story: Don’t hate the player, change the game.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • The drunken adventures of Mallory and Tamu.
  • Epic side bar: Mallory learns the book she read as a child called, “Little Black Sambo” is indeed racist.
  • Dicktures and Pusstures are for YOUR EYES ONLY, no sharing.
  • New word alert: Tinderoni – dude whores
  • Just because a dick is flaccid, it doesn’t mean it is not riddle with disease. Protect yourself from STDs and STIs.
  • Kids need to be educated in schools about sex.
  • Porn is not reality.
  • Change the culture by teaching men not to rape.
  • No one knows how to talk to one another these days, in the 90s talking on the phone wasn’t considered sociopathy.
  • Be OK with your everyday.
  • Check tagged photos to know what is really going on in a person’s life or what they are hiding.

 

Podcast Shout Outs:

Flutter: What We’ve Learned About Love

It has been a year since the ladies of Bad at Love Podcast started their quest to bust down the myth of the fairytale and perhaps become better people in the process. So, where are they now?

Moral to the Story: We deserve respect and to have people in our lives who make us better.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Mallory is less angry than she was a year ago and has learned she can walk away from an ignorant comment or stupid conversation.
  • Tamu is working on being fine with being alone. Crime shows and documentaries makes her feel more OK about being single cause “bitches be crazy”.
  • Mallory is content with her situation and doesn’t feel the need to go online dating.
  • Tamu feels dating is a lot of work.
  • The Oxygen show “Snapped” should be re-titled, “Snapped: Love Can Go So Awry.”
  • Both ladies feel like finding a special someone with useful skill sets in home and auto repair would be amazing.
  • Next steps: slather on some copulance and head to Home Depot for a handy man or O’Reilly’s Auto Parts for a mechanic.

Episode 17: The Science of Sex Appeal: How Cis White People Choose Each Other

This week we watched Discovery Channel’s 2009, “The Science of Sex Appeal” documentary and learned all sorts of sexy science things. Genetics and hormones are a bitch, y’all.

Moral to the Story: Science experiments lack diversity and inclusion.

Other Fun Topics Discussed: 

  • It all starts with the face.
  • Golden Ratio is the equation of perfection
  • We all start out symmetrical in the womb, but factors like not eating enough kale or coughing can cause asymmetry.
  • Curves = health and fertility but for some stupid reason humans judge extremes as most attractive.
  • In nature, males are the fancy ones. Human males use objects like cars and grillz to attract women.
  • Men like physical attractiveness. Ladies prefer status.
  • Kissing is important. Men’s saliva contains testosterone.
  • Copulance makes men go stupid. Ladies secrete this mind numbing hormone. It also smells like “butter gone off.”
  • Science is racist. Check out Sasheer Zamata’s look at Afrofuturism on Full Frontal with Samantha Bee.
  • Mallory equates humans to dolphins and regales us with an amazing Drunk History segment about a scientific study that drugged dolphins with LSD and jerked them off to teach them to speak English.
  • We want to know what sex appeal looks like in the age of Tinder.

 

Podcast Shout Outs:

Check out A Non Mom Happy Hour and Best Forevers Podcast.

Flutter: Irresistible Mistakes…!

This week, Tamu and Mallory make unsurprising romantic choices when they play Irresistible Mistakes an online dating simulation game from Voltage, Inc. An otome game, this story-based game is targeted towards women.

Moral to the Story: Read a book, watch a movie, or play The Sims 4 instead.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

The main character wakes up from a night of dirty, sexy times and DOES NOT SHOWER!

The use of …! for everything the main character is thinking.

Not shockingly Tamu ended up with someone who has closed himself off to love.

Unsurprisingly Mallory ended up with someone whose heart is unavailable.

Mallory Recommends: There is a pigeon simulation game called Hatoful Boyfriend that is her FAVORITE.  She says to keep playing, it isn’t how you think.

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Episode 12: Bad@Love @ The Movies “Crazy Rich Asians”

Well, at the time it was timely, but now, not so much. Tamu & Mallory headed to the theaters to see Crazy Rich Asians. 

Moral to the Story: It will be out on DVD/streaming pretty soon. Buy it, rent it, stream it often so we can get more movies of color out into the world – or at least in America.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • This movie is Black Panther for Asians.
  • These are the most rich people EVER.
  • How do you not tell someone you are dating what they are getting into when it comes to your family?
  • Once you find out, why not Google for more information?
  • Tamu would have broken up with hottie.
  • Tamu questions the NY credibility of Constance Wu’s character. Hit them in the face with the damn fish!
  • Being other impacts all facets of life.
  • Everyone hates Americans.
  • Mallory has a hard time with the notion of being “crazy rich”.
  • Even if you tick off all the boxes, being American is hobbling.
  • If Bad@Love made this movie: Possible titles; Tragic Sad Americans or Stupid Poor Americans.
  • Henry Golding’s character was problematic.
  • Breaking Stereotypes: Hunky Tall Asians
  • The most over-the-top wedding EVER.
  • What is sacrifice?
  • Bad@Love tries to escape America by Dating Abroad: Should they consider adding super rich Asians to the list?
  • Tamu didn’t know her babysitter’s sons were Neo-Nazis (she was a kid!)

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Flutter: We Are Enough As We Are – Deal With It

The amazing Awkwafina talks about dating, not fitting the “ideal type”, and embracing her true self in Vogue’s online series, “Sad Hot Girls“. This of course resonated with the Bad at Love ladies and they found quite a bit discuss.

Moral to the Story: You know yourself as well as you know yourself.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Tamu found that she had to compromise her sadness while in relationships.
  • Stupidly taking care of people who were capable of taking care of themselves.
  • Tamu had to learn how to figure out life in Minnesota alone because Sven/Bjorn (she can’t remember anymore!) was a jerk about it.
  • Tamu fortunately dodged Minnesota Nice.
  • Podcast Shout Out: Dinner for One check out this truly honest and witty podcast about a woman who moved to Paris for love, and when that didn’t work out, decided to make a live for herself in France. Also, she makes amazing French dishes for herself.
  • Tamu’s dinner for one podcast variation would be assorted Minnesota hot dishes.
  • Canning for one might be a better fit.
  • Mallory’s friends represent MN hard.
  • In Minnesota school lunches were primarily hot dishes.
  • Mallory refuses to compromise who she is, yet she consistently sabotages herself in relationships.
  • The joys of dating whilst brown.
  • Picture Christmas cards are a Midwest thing.
  • Bomb Idea: “Sad” Single Ladies Photo Christmas cards
  • On dates, Mallory tones down her feminism and political leanings, then she cranks it up to 11 if the dude turns out to be an asshole.
  • Mallory’s compromises with her family.
  • Mallory doesn’t suppress her geek chicness.
  • Mallory has changed her outlook on non-nerd/gamers because fresh blood can change the culture.
  • Mallory realizes she may be too rigid when it comes to being herself.
  • If Mallory didn’t have a fur baby, she would have left the country already.
  • Life of single fur baby motherhood.
  • Mallory’s parents are amazing.
  • Tamu not longer wants to be accommodating.
  • If you know Tamu is dating a murderer, tell her!

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