Flutter: Try the Bacon – Advice to Tamu in Europe

Tamu is off to Europe for two whole months! Tiffany from (A)broad in Education and super special guest Thuan (check out his foodie Instagram @travel2f00d) join Mallory in giving her advice for her travels.

Moral to the Story: Say yes and don’t be afraid to go off your plan.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

Episode 29: How to Date Men When You Hate Men: The Book of Contradictions

We read Blythe Roberson’s How to Date Men When You Hate Men basically because Mallory hates dudes and we want to get to the bottom of it.

Moral to the Story: Times are a changin’! You can write your own story when it comes to relationships.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Get to Know Us: Relationship flashbacks. What do you do when you are triggered into a relationship memory?
  • Wish them well even if they are assholes.
  • #WePodcastLikeThis
  • Hair Colorist Shout Out –  to Shelly Rae of Paper Hair Salon.
  • Everyone wanted Mallory to read this book.
  • Mallory can’t get past the hate because of her trust issues.
  • Blythe might need Talkspace.
  • You can chart your own path when it comes to love.
  • Is the fairy tale real? Maybe, but it will end because love is a false construct.
  • Pop culture dictates the rules.
  • What does dating mean?
  • The group hang.
  • Is it so wrong to have phone conversations in 2019?
  • Hold fast to your deal breakers.
  • Have multiple crushes.
  • The 2 question rule.

Episode 28: Be Honest With What You Want to Get What You Desire & Deserve

This week we talk with our friend and author of Reclaiming Choice: Awakening Peace and Power from Within, Gretchen about not compromising on your deal-breakers in relationships. BTW, she is also the lovely woman who let us record season one at her house.

Moral to the Story: You don’t have to jump into dating immediately after a breakup.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Get to Know Us: What should the legal smoking age be? 18 or 21?
  • Our consensus was 19.
  • Tamu is going to try a hash brownie when she goes to Amsterdam.
  • #WePodcastLikeThis
  • We create our own relationships. Get clear on your deal-breakers.
  • Communicating with the Opposite Sex, by Alison Armstrong.
  • Follow your gut.
  • Don’t compromise on your happiness.
  • It is more sensible to look for what you desire and deserve, rather than waste someone’s time.
  • It is not easy to sit within yourself.
  • Take time to process the end of relationships or else you’ll bring that baggage into your next one.
  • At the end of the day, be honest with what you want.

 

Book Recommendation:

Check out Gretchen’s book, Reclaiming Choice: Awakening Peace and Power from Within:

Is the world going mad? Have you wondered if the violence and suffering will ever end? With gentle words, Gretchen speaks through the fog of pain and confusion to a culture that has lost its center. Conveyed in a personal narrative that is at once familiar and profound, she guides the reader through the layers of separation obscuring access to peace and wholeness. The journey is as healing as it is empowering; awakening the reader to the importance of reclaiming their right of conscious choice. In the process, Gretchen builds a bridge between where we are now and where we can go as individuals, communities and as a human race. It is a refreshing perspective, worthy of consideration, discussion and application.

Flutter: Not Going to Have Sex to that Weird Pac-Man Song

This week we are talkin’ ’bout the songs that maybe shouldn’t be played when the mood strikes thanks to the Huff Post article, 20 Songs You Should Never Pay During Sex

Moral to the Story: Red flags can also be found in playlists.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • The Toy Story toys probably have jizz on them.
  • Mallory has her own version of Baby Shark.
  • Tamu doesn’t know anything by Tom Waits.
  • The Star Spangled Banner is racist.
  • Mallory knows someone who would bang to the song, Tears in Heaven.
  • Shout out to C-Dot from the Meme-ing of it All and her love for Old Town Road
  • Would you include Old Town Road to your playlist?
  • Mallory’s mom wanted her and her brother to be in a Hanson-esque band.
  • Wight 2 played Closerby Nine Inch Nails after sex with Tamu. She was unsure as to whether or not it was a compliment.

 

Flutter: Legolas Learns from his Past Mistakes…Without Mallory

Former love of Mallory’s life, Orlando Bloom is now betrothed to Katy Perry. Those two crazy kids have decided to the take the slow road to marriage by having a long engagement. We discuss whether this is just Hottie Bloom’s ploy to wait for Mallory to run into him at a “Con” and steal his heart or if he and Katy are just doing a super healthy thing by taking their time.

Moral to the Story: Getting married to fix an issue in a relationship won’t work.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Mallory learns about the movie, Black Rain with Michael Douglas. Tamu might be confusing the plot with the Law & Order episode with Laura Linney.
  • Tamu’s life with Mallory is like being with Encino Man.
  • Taking a long engagement is pretty healthy.
  • Katy Perry & T-Swift are friends again.
  • Tamu explains Celine Dion’s romance with her husband Renee.
  • Marriage being a legal contract takes the romance out of the construct.
  • 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way.
  • Mallory devises a test for relationship longevity; if you can travel together, get married.
  • Welcome to our new superfan Jen!
  • Sorry, Jim.

Episode 25: My Life is the MMMBop Song!

This week we dig into the results of our emotional intelligence tests!

Moral to the Story: Not everyone thinks like you.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Get To Know Us: we talk about childhood songs. Tamu blows Mallory away with the disco version of “C is for Cookie” off of Sesame Street Disco Fever. Mallory remembers the racist version of “This Land is Your Land” from junior high school.
  • We can’t help but feel we broke our lovely EQ coach, Hannah.
  • #WePodcastLikeThis with Dave Matthews’ Dreaming Tree Wine with the hard to read poem.
  • Mallory’s amazingly high EQ scores would be even higher were it not for her life challenges last year, but things are on the up!
  • Tamu’s optimism score is 45, because this world is a piece of shit.
  • Mallory realizes she has mental health privilege.
  • Getting the results was nerve wrecking.
  • Mallory’s version of flexibility is not being a doormat.
  • Tamu is optimistic for everyone except herself.
  • Question of the Day: How do you become optimistic in a shitty world?
  • You cannot have a perspective in reality & be optimistic, you are lying to yourself.
  • Scores reflected the environments that Mallory & Tamu grew up in.
  • Mallory talks about her mom’s insane optimism that leeched into her psyche which is positive — even if she doesn’t see it that way.
  • Mallory saved a jumper’s life.
  • MMMBop has lyrics!
  • Note to Dave Matthews: We don’t understand you!
  • Mallory’s family issues have gotten better but, when it comes to dating relationships, she has to work on trust.

 

Flutter: What Colors are the Emotional Strengths that Moved Your Cheese?

This week we talk about the pending results of our emotional intelligence tests.

Moral to the Story: EQ tests are an indicator of where you are today, your traits can change over time, that is called “growth”.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Tamu thinks her results will be the worst.
  • Jim has to edit our last podcast episode if Tamu and Mallory find out they are not compatible and kill each other.
  • Mallory feels personality tests are used as excuses by people who never choose to grow.
  • Tamu wants to retake Myers-Briggs now that she is on Prozac.
  • NEW EQ TEST by Tamu & Mallory!
  • Tamu & Mallory don’t want to be helper/supportive people all the time.

 

Flutter: A Glamorous Barf & Fall

Have you even pulled a Sandra Dee from Grease to attract a boy/girl? We talk about the times we tried to put our freakum dresses to bag dudes and the amazing fails that occurred as a result.

Moral to the Story: It never goes well when you try to change yourself for others.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Check your shoes for cardboard.
  • Tamu’s Hulu Show not in development: The Handslut’s Tale.
  • We did not meet the band members from Justin Timberlake’s 20/20 Experience Tour.
  • Mallory’s Terrible Awful Fancy Night Out.
  • Mini Moral: Always eat while you drink.
  • The first time…Mallory shaved her legs: her mom forced her to stay in the shower until she did it.
  • Microblading and henna.
  • Tamu trims and plucks to go to the OB/GYN.
  • Extreme weight loss doesn’t always work…you still gotta fix what is within.

Episode 23: And for Love’s Sake…Reduce your Expectations

This week we talk sex, relationships and what cheating means thanks to the help of Dax Shepard’s Armchair Expert episode with psychotherapist Esther Perel.

Moral to the Story: Strive to the the best human you can be; it is ok to be vulnerable and communicate.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Get to know Tamu and Mallory: Tamu flips the script and asks Mallory the hard hitting question that dominated the internet for maybe 3 whole days; do you wash your legs when you take a shower? Some key takeaway’s:
  1. Not washing your body is gross.
  2. Whore’s baths are perfectly fine.
  3. Loofahs and scrubbies are good.
  4. Bar soap washing.
  5. Washcloths are gross.
  6. Tamu only does a bar soap wash in cases of emergency.
  7. T. Swift shaves and therefore doesn’t wash her legs.
  8. Friction is needed to get clean…among other things.
  9. You should not have to Google how to take a shower!
  • #WePodcastLikeThis – we are getting better at this
  • Esther Perel’s TED Talk on infidelity .
  • Cheating has a ripple effect. It impacts not just the two people cheating; it also impacts your community, future prospects.
  • Cheating is what men did.
  • Finding “the one” has more meaning today than it did in the past.
  • Mallory has staunch opinions things.
  • Today we live isolated lives but create a curated life on social media.
  • Relationships are work. To grow together, you have to communicate.
  • Question of the Day: Did our view of cheating change after listening to Esther Perel?
  • Sex is just an act. We add the flair with our imagination.
  • 100% Facts: We can’t expect people to live up to the standards that we set up in our minds.
  • In the U.S., there is not a thoughtful approach to sexuality.
  • Sex Ed in the U.S. is about plumbing, not the emotional aspect.
  • Sex is considered dirty in the U.S.. It is not open for discussion.
  • Education is key!
  • Abortion Discussion Bottom Line: Abortion is a fucking choice!
  • Mallory’s Dick Tangent: Don’t put a USB charger up your penis!
  • It is not easy to be vulnerable without the tools and education to understand.
  • Life Goals from Holocaust Survivors: Take all the sadness of your family’s historical trauma and live your best life.

Podcast Promo Shout Outs:

 

Flutter: Always be Prepared to Cheat

This week we talk about cheating and what is means to each of us, respectively.

Moral to the Story: It is imperative to have open communication in a relationship.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Is the old adage, “Once a cheater, always a cheater” true?
  • Tamu questions her experience of cheating on White 1 (still getting the damn names confused!)
  • A chair falls in the middle of the episode!