Flutter: Try the Bacon – Advice to Tamu in Europe

Tamu is off to Europe for two whole months! Tiffany from (A)broad in Education and super special guest Thuan (check out his foodie Instagram @travel2f00d) join Mallory in giving her advice for her travels.

Moral to the Story: Say yes and don’t be afraid to go off your plan.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

Episode 29: How to Date Men When You Hate Men: The Book of Contradictions

We read Blythe Roberson’s How to Date Men When You Hate Men basically because Mallory hates dudes and we want to get to the bottom of it.

Moral to the Story: Times are a changin’! You can write your own story when it comes to relationships.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Get to Know Us: Relationship flashbacks. What do you do when you are triggered into a relationship memory?
  • Wish them well even if they are assholes.
  • #WePodcastLikeThis
  • Hair Colorist Shout Out –  to Shelly Rae of Paper Hair Salon.
  • Everyone wanted Mallory to read this book.
  • Mallory can’t get past the hate because of her trust issues.
  • Blythe might need Talkspace.
  • You can chart your own path when it comes to love.
  • Is the fairy tale real? Maybe, but it will end because love is a false construct.
  • Pop culture dictates the rules.
  • What does dating mean?
  • The group hang.
  • Is it so wrong to have phone conversations in 2019?
  • Hold fast to your deal breakers.
  • Have multiple crushes.
  • The 2 question rule.

Episode 28: Be Honest With What You Want to Get What You Desire & Deserve

This week we talk with our friend and author of Reclaiming Choice: Awakening Peace and Power from Within, Gretchen about not compromising on your deal-breakers in relationships. BTW, she is also the lovely woman who let us record season one at her house.

Moral to the Story: You don’t have to jump into dating immediately after a breakup.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Get to Know Us: What should the legal smoking age be? 18 or 21?
  • Our consensus was 19.
  • Tamu is going to try a hash brownie when she goes to Amsterdam.
  • #WePodcastLikeThis
  • We create our own relationships. Get clear on your deal-breakers.
  • Communicating with the Opposite Sex, by Alison Armstrong.
  • Follow your gut.
  • Don’t compromise on your happiness.
  • It is more sensible to look for what you desire and deserve, rather than waste someone’s time.
  • It is not easy to sit within yourself.
  • Take time to process the end of relationships or else you’ll bring that baggage into your next one.
  • At the end of the day, be honest with what you want.

 

Book Recommendation:

Check out Gretchen’s book, Reclaiming Choice: Awakening Peace and Power from Within:

Is the world going mad? Have you wondered if the violence and suffering will ever end? With gentle words, Gretchen speaks through the fog of pain and confusion to a culture that has lost its center. Conveyed in a personal narrative that is at once familiar and profound, she guides the reader through the layers of separation obscuring access to peace and wholeness. The journey is as healing as it is empowering; awakening the reader to the importance of reclaiming their right of conscious choice. In the process, Gretchen builds a bridge between where we are now and where we can go as individuals, communities and as a human race. It is a refreshing perspective, worthy of consideration, discussion and application.

Flutter: Not Going to Have Sex to that Weird Pac-Man Song

This week we are talkin’ ’bout the songs that maybe shouldn’t be played when the mood strikes thanks to the Huff Post article, 20 Songs You Should Never Pay During Sex

Moral to the Story: Red flags can also be found in playlists.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • The Toy Story toys probably have jizz on them.
  • Mallory has her own version of Baby Shark.
  • Tamu doesn’t know anything by Tom Waits.
  • The Star Spangled Banner is racist.
  • Mallory knows someone who would bang to the song, Tears in Heaven.
  • Shout out to C-Dot from the Meme-ing of it All and her love for Old Town Road
  • Would you include Old Town Road to your playlist?
  • Mallory’s mom wanted her and her brother to be in a Hanson-esque band.
  • Wight 2 played Closerby Nine Inch Nails after sex with Tamu. She was unsure as to whether or not it was a compliment.

 

Episode 27: Too Late, Mariah

Originally, this was supposed to be a Flutter, but there was so much to say, it became its own episode. We are joined by friend and benefactress (we recorded season one at her house), Gretchen to discuss compassion, forgiveness, and moving on from people in our families who have hurt us in the past that are now facing their own mortality.

Moral to the Story: Forgiveness doesn’t require face-to-face interactions, it can be done individually and energetically.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Jim’s drunk text almost wrecked Tamu’s upcoming London visit.
  • You don’t have to explain your truth to anyone.
  • Live as clean of a life as possible.
  • Mallory bought 2 pairs of shoes!
  • It is the family we create that matters, not always the family we are given.

Flutter: Suck It Tommy! Your Mom’s a Douche

This week we are joined by friend and special guest, Gretchen to discuss a woman who lost her shit at Disney waiting on line for a pretzel with her 3-year-old and took to Facebook to vent her frustrations on single, childless people…and their short shorts.

Moral to the Story: PACK FUCKING SNACKS!

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Mallory equates dogs to toddlers and toddlers to drunk adults.
  • Gretchen went to Niagara Falls in utero and shockingly doesn’t remember it.
  • We would love to hear what A Non Mom Happy Hour thinks.
  • New travel document: Trip disclosures for kids.
  • Mallory’s dad had to go to the Hall of Presidents while his parents enjoyed the Disney parade.
  • Gretchen bitch slaps the mic.

Episode 26: Bad@Love and St. Paul Filmcast Watch “The Heiress”

We attempt to put on our film critics caps and watch the 1949 classic, “The Heiress” with actual film buff, Nick from St. Paul Filmcast.

Movie Moral to the Story: Based on this movie and countless other movies, it is easier to love a pretty person than and ugly person.

Our Moral to the Story: Awkward can be beautiful.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Get to Know Us: What moving setting would we live in?
  • Nick would definitely not live in the DC Universe. He might choose living in Middle Earth but we are all unclear as to whether they have indoor plumbing.
  • Aragorn is like 150!
  • More on Lord of the Rings: Mallory lost most her Elvish language skills. I guess it is true if you don’t use it, you lose it.
  • Tamu said she would live in a Nora Ephron movie, but really she meant Nancy Meyers. Who wouldn’t want to live in Meryl Streep’s “It’s Complicated” house?
  • Mallory would live in a musical.
  • None of us opted for living in a period piece or the Marvel Universe. Well, maybe Wakanda.
  • Tamu notices Montgomery Clift’s bumper curls.
  • Catherine’s dad was a really good doctor and gave himself a spot on diagnosis and prognosis with just a stethoscope!
  • Olivia de Havilland and her sister Joan Fontaine had a wicked sibling rivalry.
  • Move over Spinster, there’s a new word in town: Thornback – an unmarried woman over age 26.
  • Nick actually READ Game of Thrones.
  • Nick explains the tricks of back and white movies.
  • Turns out Mallory has an ally in the Love Actually debate. Too bad Nick missed that episode.
  • Morris’ unromantic song, “Plaisir d’amour. Lyrics are: The joy of love lasts but a moment. The pain of love lasts all the life long. SWOON!
  • Copyright Infringement: Elvis probs stole the melody of “Can’t Help Falling in Love with You” from that awesome French “love” song.
  • #WePodcastLikeThis: It was late, but we remembered.

Podcast Shout Out:

Nick Palodichuk is not just a knowledgeable film dude, lover of comics, and podcast host. He is also a talent artist! Check out his graphic novel, The Green Way – Vol. 1. Volumes 2 and 3 will be out in the fall.

Flutter: Legolas Learns from his Past Mistakes…Without Mallory

Former love of Mallory’s life, Orlando Bloom is now betrothed to Katy Perry. Those two crazy kids have decided to the take the slow road to marriage by having a long engagement. We discuss whether this is just Hottie Bloom’s ploy to wait for Mallory to run into him at a “Con” and steal his heart or if he and Katy are just doing a super healthy thing by taking their time.

Moral to the Story: Getting married to fix an issue in a relationship won’t work.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Mallory learns about the movie, Black Rain with Michael Douglas. Tamu might be confusing the plot with the Law & Order episode with Laura Linney.
  • Tamu’s life with Mallory is like being with Encino Man.
  • Taking a long engagement is pretty healthy.
  • Katy Perry & T-Swift are friends again.
  • Tamu explains Celine Dion’s romance with her husband Renee.
  • Marriage being a legal contract takes the romance out of the construct.
  • 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way.
  • Mallory devises a test for relationship longevity; if you can travel together, get married.
  • Welcome to our new superfan Jen!
  • Sorry, Jim.

Episode 25: My Life is the MMMBop Song!

This week we dig into the results of our emotional intelligence tests!

Moral to the Story: Not everyone thinks like you.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Get To Know Us: we talk about childhood songs. Tamu blows Mallory away with the disco version of “C is for Cookie” off of Sesame Street Disco Fever. Mallory remembers the racist version of “This Land is Your Land” from junior high school.
  • We can’t help but feel we broke our lovely EQ coach, Hannah.
  • #WePodcastLikeThis with Dave Matthews’ Dreaming Tree Wine with the hard to read poem.
  • Mallory’s amazingly high EQ scores would be even higher were it not for her life challenges last year, but things are on the up!
  • Tamu’s optimism score is 45, because this world is a piece of shit.
  • Mallory realizes she has mental health privilege.
  • Getting the results was nerve wrecking.
  • Mallory’s version of flexibility is not being a doormat.
  • Tamu is optimistic for everyone except herself.
  • Question of the Day: How do you become optimistic in a shitty world?
  • You cannot have a perspective in reality & be optimistic, you are lying to yourself.
  • Scores reflected the environments that Mallory & Tamu grew up in.
  • Mallory talks about her mom’s insane optimism that leeched into her psyche which is positive — even if she doesn’t see it that way.
  • Mallory saved a jumper’s life.
  • MMMBop has lyrics!
  • Note to Dave Matthews: We don’t understand you!
  • Mallory’s family issues have gotten better but, when it comes to dating relationships, she has to work on trust.

 

Flutter: What Colors are the Emotional Strengths that Moved Your Cheese?

This week we talk about the pending results of our emotional intelligence tests.

Moral to the Story: EQ tests are an indicator of where you are today, your traits can change over time, that is called “growth”.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Tamu thinks her results will be the worst.
  • Jim has to edit our last podcast episode if Tamu and Mallory find out they are not compatible and kill each other.
  • Mallory feels personality tests are used as excuses by people who never choose to grow.
  • Tamu wants to retake Myers-Briggs now that she is on Prozac.
  • NEW EQ TEST by Tamu & Mallory!
  • Tamu & Mallory don’t want to be helper/supportive people all the time.