Episode 31: I See London, I See France…Alone

Tiffany from (A)broad in Education and super special guest Thuan (check out his foodie Instagram @travel2f00d) join us to discuss being American while traveling solo.

Moral to the Story: Travel makes you different.

Other Fun Topics Discuss:

  • Tamu is traveling to Europe.
  • Tiffany has two volumes of photos from her trips.
  • Tamu’s flight anxiety.
  • Group consensus: there is plenty to do to keep you distracted on flights.
  • Geography.
  • Tiffany’s Collage: Smoking in Amsterdam
  • Food tastes better in their origin countries.
  • Thuan Recommends: Churchill War Museum
  • Feeling Triggered: Tamu passes on the Heineken Museum because Wight 1 used to drink it. Tiffany suggests going to exorcise the legacy of Wight 1.
  • Tamu is taking a wig to change her persona in Amsterdam.
  • Hair changes your personality.
  • Tiffany suggests wearing a wig throughout the trip.
  • Le Paris Noir Tour.

      Travel & Race & Safety:

  • Don’t read the comments when you Google about being black and travelling.
  • Being American carries more weight than blackness.
  • Travel in Paris.
  • Tales from the Camino de Santiago.
  • Being American can also make you feel like an outsider aside from race/ethnicity.
  • Passports: Concept of US passport as reparations.
  • Head Scratcher Question: Are all Americans colonizers?
  • Americans have a privilege abroad just by being American.
  • Is it radical to travel?

Episode 30: Shit Happens During the Day, Literally

Once again, it started as an innocent Get To Know Us question and turned into a full-blown episode. We are joined by Tiffany from (A)broad in Education and super special guest Thuan (check out his foodie Instagram @travel2f00d) for a robust discussion about the ridiculous expense of bras, underwear cleanliness/rotation, and going commando.

Moral to the Story: Buy new underwear every six months, don’t be like us and have them for years.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • The most money spent on a bra.
  • Victoria’s Secret was a bra/panty training ground for most of us.
  • Tiffany was wearing the wrong sized bra because they were her mom’s.
  • Tiffany also didn’t want boobs.
  • Training bras.
  • Tamu is going to London to see Jim.
  • The consensus is that she will get laid.
  • Local Business Shout-out: Allure Intimate Apparel.
  • Nips are not a thing Tamu wants.
  • Poor Thuan is mortified.
  • No one will let Tamu finish her story.
  • Third Love bras are hella expensive.
  • Dudes just have to buy a 4-pack of Jockey underwear and are good to go.
  • Tamu realizes her boobs are sagging because she is old and not because of mammograms.
  • Thuan suggests going commando.
  • A study from Tommy John shows Americans wear the same underwear multiple times in a row.
  • Bad@Love PSA: Wash your clothes.
  • Bad@Love PSA that we shouldn’t need to remind you about: WASH YOUR PAN AFTER YOUR COOK/SEASON CHICKEN!!
  • Mallory wore someone else’s panties as a teen.
  • Bad@Love Pro-Tip: Wear underwear inside out when borrowing.
  • Bad@Love Saves the Planet: Go commando to save the landfills.
  • H&M textile bins.
  • Mallory’s sports bra is at the end of the world.
  • Correction: We meant Abercrombie & Fitch, not American Apparel.
  • Mindblown: What if we are meant to be funky?
  • Do hipsters wash their legs?
  • Americans have a different immune system.

Asia According to Thuan:

  • In Asia, you have different types of ice.
  • Drink the ice that has holes in it. Don’t drink the ice that is chipped off from a block.
  • Ask for ice on the side.
  • Drink bottled or canned.

Flutter: Maintaining Relationships During Travels

Tamu is off to Europe for two whole months! Tiffany from (A)broad in Education joins Mallory as they talk about the difficulties of maintaining relationships while traveling, after traveling, and how a lot of it can be in your head when you simply realize that life happens.

Moral to the Story: Keeping in touch can be difficult. But when you stay connected, life flourishes.

Flutter: Try the Bacon – Advice to Tamu in Europe

Tamu is off to Europe for two whole months! Tiffany from (A)broad in Education and super special guest Thuan (check out his foodie Instagram @travel2f00d) join Mallory in giving her advice for her travels.

Moral to the Story: Say yes and don’t be afraid to go off your plan.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

Episode 29: How to Date Men When You Hate Men: The Book of Contradictions

We read Blythe Roberson’s How to Date Men When You Hate Men basically because Mallory hates dudes and we want to get to the bottom of it.

Moral to the Story: Times are a changin’! You can write your own story when it comes to relationships.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Get to Know Us: Relationship flashbacks. What do you do when you are triggered into a relationship memory?
  • Wish them well even if they are assholes.
  • #WePodcastLikeThis
  • Hair Colorist Shout Out –  to Shelly Rae of Paper Hair Salon.
  • Everyone wanted Mallory to read this book.
  • Mallory can’t get past the hate because of her trust issues.
  • Blythe might need Talkspace.
  • You can chart your own path when it comes to love.
  • Is the fairy tale real? Maybe, but it will end because love is a false construct.
  • Pop culture dictates the rules.
  • What does dating mean?
  • The group hang.
  • Is it so wrong to have phone conversations in 2019?
  • Hold fast to your deal breakers.
  • Have multiple crushes.
  • The 2 question rule.

Episode 28: Be Honest With What You Want to Get What You Desire & Deserve

This week we talk with our friend and author of Reclaiming Choice: Awakening Peace and Power from Within, Gretchen about not compromising on your deal-breakers in relationships. BTW, she is also the lovely woman who let us record season one at her house.

Moral to the Story: You don’t have to jump into dating immediately after a breakup.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Get to Know Us: What should the legal smoking age be? 18 or 21?
  • Our consensus was 19.
  • Tamu is going to try a hash brownie when she goes to Amsterdam.
  • #WePodcastLikeThis
  • We create our own relationships. Get clear on your deal-breakers.
  • Communicating with the Opposite Sex, by Alison Armstrong.
  • Follow your gut.
  • Don’t compromise on your happiness.
  • It is more sensible to look for what you desire and deserve, rather than waste someone’s time.
  • It is not easy to sit within yourself.
  • Take time to process the end of relationships or else you’ll bring that baggage into your next one.
  • At the end of the day, be honest with what you want.

 

Book Recommendation:

Check out Gretchen’s book, Reclaiming Choice: Awakening Peace and Power from Within:

Is the world going mad? Have you wondered if the violence and suffering will ever end? With gentle words, Gretchen speaks through the fog of pain and confusion to a culture that has lost its center. Conveyed in a personal narrative that is at once familiar and profound, she guides the reader through the layers of separation obscuring access to peace and wholeness. The journey is as healing as it is empowering; awakening the reader to the importance of reclaiming their right of conscious choice. In the process, Gretchen builds a bridge between where we are now and where we can go as individuals, communities and as a human race. It is a refreshing perspective, worthy of consideration, discussion and application.

Flutter: Not Going to Have Sex to that Weird Pac-Man Song

This week we are talkin’ ’bout the songs that maybe shouldn’t be played when the mood strikes thanks to the Huff Post article, 20 Songs You Should Never Pay During Sex

Moral to the Story: Red flags can also be found in playlists.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • The Toy Story toys probably have jizz on them.
  • Mallory has her own version of Baby Shark.
  • Tamu doesn’t know anything by Tom Waits.
  • The Star Spangled Banner is racist.
  • Mallory knows someone who would bang to the song, Tears in Heaven.
  • Shout out to C-Dot from the Meme-ing of it All and her love for Old Town Road
  • Would you include Old Town Road to your playlist?
  • Mallory’s mom wanted her and her brother to be in a Hanson-esque band.
  • Wight 2 played Closerby Nine Inch Nails after sex with Tamu. She was unsure as to whether or not it was a compliment.

 

Episode 27: Too Late, Mariah

Originally, this was supposed to be a Flutter, but there was so much to say, it became its own episode. We are joined by friend and benefactress (we recorded season one at her house), Gretchen to discuss compassion, forgiveness, and moving on from people in our families who have hurt us in the past that are now facing their own mortality.

Moral to the Story: Forgiveness doesn’t require face-to-face interactions, it can be done individually and energetically.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Jim’s drunk text almost wrecked Tamu’s upcoming London visit.
  • You don’t have to explain your truth to anyone.
  • Live as clean of a life as possible.
  • Mallory bought 2 pairs of shoes!
  • It is the family we create that matters, not always the family we are given.

Flutter: Suck It Tommy! Your Mom’s a Douche

This week we are joined by friend and special guest, Gretchen to discuss a woman who lost her shit at Disney waiting on line for a pretzel with her 3-year-old and took to Facebook to vent her frustrations on single, childless people…and their short shorts.

Moral to the Story: PACK FUCKING SNACKS!

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Mallory equates dogs to toddlers and toddlers to drunk adults.
  • Gretchen went to Niagara Falls in utero and shockingly doesn’t remember it.
  • We would love to hear what A Non Mom Happy Hour thinks.
  • New travel document: Trip disclosures for kids.
  • Mallory’s dad had to go to the Hall of Presidents while his parents enjoyed the Disney parade.
  • Gretchen bitch slaps the mic.

Episode 26: Bad@Love and St. Paul Filmcast Watch “The Heiress”

We attempt to put on our film critics caps and watch the 1949 classic, “The Heiress” with actual film buff, Nick from St. Paul Filmcast.

Movie Moral to the Story: Based on this movie and countless other movies, it is easier to love a pretty person than and ugly person.

Our Moral to the Story: Awkward can be beautiful.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Get to Know Us: What moving setting would we live in?
  • Nick would definitely not live in the DC Universe. He might choose living in Middle Earth but we are all unclear as to whether they have indoor plumbing.
  • Aragorn is like 150!
  • More on Lord of the Rings: Mallory lost most her Elvish language skills. I guess it is true if you don’t use it, you lose it.
  • Tamu said she would live in a Nora Ephron movie, but really she meant Nancy Meyers. Who wouldn’t want to live in Meryl Streep’s “It’s Complicated” house?
  • Mallory would live in a musical.
  • None of us opted for living in a period piece or the Marvel Universe. Well, maybe Wakanda.
  • Tamu notices Montgomery Clift’s bumper curls.
  • Catherine’s dad was a really good doctor and gave himself a spot on diagnosis and prognosis with just a stethoscope!
  • Olivia de Havilland and her sister Joan Fontaine had a wicked sibling rivalry.
  • Move over Spinster, there’s a new word in town: Thornback – an unmarried woman over age 26.
  • Nick actually READ Game of Thrones.
  • Nick explains the tricks of back and white movies.
  • Turns out Mallory has an ally in the Love Actually debate. Too bad Nick missed that episode.
  • Morris’ unromantic song, “Plaisir d’amour. Lyrics are: The joy of love lasts but a moment. The pain of love lasts all the life long. SWOON!
  • Copyright Infringement: Elvis probs stole the melody of “Can’t Help Falling in Love with You” from that awesome French “love” song.
  • #WePodcastLikeThis: It was late, but we remembered.

Podcast Shout Out:

Nick Palodichuk is not just a knowledgeable film dude, lover of comics, and podcast host. He is also a talent artist! Check out his graphic novel, The Green Way – Vol. 1. Volumes 2 and 3 will be out in the fall.