For Halloween, Mallory & Tamu watched Fatal Attraction and talked about the controversy surrounding film’s ending. Unfortunately, they neglected to Google the original film ending at the time. So today, they watched the original end of the movie and it was startlingly different.
Moral to the Story: No roll in the hay is worth hurting yourself.
Tamu and Mallory read Trisha R. Thomas’s Nappily Ever Afterand compare it to the Netflixadaptation. Let’s just say there were high expectations which were sadly not met. However, both the book and movie are pioneers for moving natural hair into the mainstream; hopefully the next movies and books about natural hair will be even better.
Moral to the Story: We are beautiful regardless of what comes out of our heads.
Other Fun Topics Discussed:
The protagonist is really a selfish human.
She cut her hair off and had no new growth as a person.
Mallory liked the first chapter of the book.
Communication is important in relationships.
Don’t get blasted and share feelings because you may end up engaged.
Book break up vs. Insecurebreakup between Issa & Lawrence.
Mallory wondered if the movie was for white people to get an idea of black women & their hair.
The movie’s theme is “if a black man approves”
Most Ridiculous Movie Quote: “Men want realness”
Anything with a dick can still be a dick.
Women & beauty standards.
Sex in the shower can be a thing on wash day.
Miraculously Sanaa’s character can braid, but was unable to do her own hair.
Don’t assume because someone is wearing a scarf that they have cancer.
Mallory found the sexism in the movie!
Tamu talks about the moment when she cut her hair off.
Mallory finds the misogyny in the final pool scene between the father and mother!
Bad@Love Remakes this Movie: Would have been better to see someone with more power in their hands.
Myth Busted: Going natural is not cheap, nor is it quick.
The World According to Mallory: Online dating = Love resumes so use grammar and spell check.
This week, Tamu and Mallory make unsurprising romantic choices when they play Irresistible Mistakes an online dating simulation game from Voltage, Inc. An otome game, this story-based game is targeted towards women.
Moral to the Story: Read a book, watch a movie, or play The Sims 4 instead.
Other Fun Topics Discussed:
The main character wakes up from a night of dirty, sexy times and DOES NOT SHOWER!
The use of …! for everything the main character is thinking.
Not shockingly Tamu ended up with someone who has closed himself off to love.
Unsurprisingly Mallory ended up with someone whose heart is unavailable.
Mallory Recommends: There is a pigeon simulation game called Hatoful Boyfriendthat is her FAVORITE. She says to keep playing, it isn’t how you think.
We watched the Netflix documentary, “City of Joy” and learned that sexual violence has been used as a weapon of the armed conflict in the Democratic Republic of Congo since 1996. Women in this region continue to be raped, mutilated and murdered for conflict minerals (Tantalum – aka Coltan, Tungsten, Tin, and Gold) that are used in our cell phones, electronics, cars, and jewelry.
City of Joy has been opened since 2011 and empowers the women who have been brutalized, to learn new skills, love their bodies, release the stigma of being raped, and become leaders in their communities. 1117 women have graduated the program since it began.
Moral to the Story: “The antidote to injustice is progress.” — Stacey Abrams
What can you do? Watch the movie, donate, tell others that this is still happening, find out if your phone and electronics companies are using conflict minerals. If they are, let them know you want no part of their products. Our dollars speak VOLUMES!
The amazing Awkwafina talks about dating, not fitting the “ideal type”, and embracing her true self in Vogue’s online series, “Sad Hot Girls“. This of course resonated with the Bad at Love ladies and they found quite a bit discuss.
Moral to the Story: You know yourself as well as you know yourself.
Other Fun Topics Discussed:
Tamu found that she had to compromise her sadness while in relationships.
Stupidly taking care of people who were capable of taking care of themselves.
Tamu had to learn how to figure out life in Minnesota alone because Sven/Bjorn (she can’t remember anymore!) was a jerk about it.
Tamu fortunately dodged Minnesota Nice.
Podcast Shout Out:Dinner for Onecheck out this truly honest and witty podcast about a woman who moved to Paris for love, and when that didn’t work out, decided to make a live for herself in France. Also, she makes amazing French dishes for herself.
Tamu’s dinner for one podcast variation would be assorted Minnesota hot dishes.
Canning for one might be a better fit.
Mallory’s friends represent MN hard.
In Minnesota school lunches were primarily hot dishes.
Mallory refuses to compromise who she is, yet she consistently sabotages herself in relationships.
The joys of dating whilst brown.
Picture Christmas cards are a Midwest thing.
Bomb Idea: “Sad” Single Ladies Photo Christmas cards
On dates, Mallory tones down her feminism and political leanings, then she cranks it up to 11 if the dude turns out to be an asshole.
Mallory’s compromises with her family.
Mallory doesn’t suppress her geek chicness.
Mallory has changed her outlook on non-nerd/gamers because fresh blood can change the culture.
Mallory realizes she may be too rigid when it comes to being herself.
If Mallory didn’t have a fur baby, she would have left the country already.