Episode 33: Braving the Wilderness

As a part of Tamu’s personal growth journey, she chose to read Brene Brown’s, Braving the Wilderness then thought it would be good idea to read for the podcast at some point. The timing was astounding, as it was read during a week of mass shootings at the end of July into August and the book served as basis to try and understand why these tragedies continue to occur and how we can work in our own small ways to make change.

Moral to the Story: Listen to try to understand in the same way we want to be understood.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Get to Know Us: Being in a relationship with a person of color. Awareness of the whites to issues of others. Respect when your partner draws attention to situations.
  • Mallory hates slap bracelets.
  • Drink of the Day: Tinto de Verano
  • What is the wilderness? Standing in your truth and not wavering from it.
  • It is important to set up boundaries for yourself.
  • We are living in a giant feedback loop.
  • Loneliness stems from fear & anger.
  • We are where we are today out of fear.
  • Global and Domestic Terrorism: A Discussion
  • Dehumanization
  • Mallory is losing her empathy for gunmen.
  • We are all able to recognize and stop it.
  • Conflict transformation: Help me understand.
  • Mallory is always on a rampage for justice, to hell with small victories.
  • Tamu is working on being joy-filled but she is busy foreboding joy.
  • Be courageous and vulnerable.
  • Express your joy, it will make others happy.

Flutter: Kittenfishing

Tamu and Mallory discussed the lesser known, but all to commonplace concept of kittenfishing thanks to the Huffington Post article, “If You’re Dating, You’ve Almost Undoubtedly Been Kittenfished.”

Moral to the Story: You don’t have to lie about who you are–we will find out.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Kittenfishing was created by Hinge. It means, someone who presents themselves unrealistically using Photoshop, older, albeit younger pictures, etc.
  • Calling it “kittenfishing” makes it sound less insidious.
  • Mallory finds herself entertaining.

Episode 32: Justice Flowers with a Side of Ranch

Hannah joins us to talk about her Social Justice Book Club.

Moral to the Story: It is important to keep lines of communication open to strengthen relationships.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

Local Business Shout-Out: Sociable Cider Werks.

Get to Know Us: Weird Food Combos – Hannah loves ranch on everything! Mallory eats Fritos with cottage cheese. Tamu eats most things out of a bowl with a spoon.

#WePodcastLikeThis – baby shark edition

How do you maintain relationships when you have divergent opinions on politics & justice?

One method: Meet for coffee to talk about politics/social identity.

Have ground rules.

Look for connections and points to open up.

Flutter: Social Justice Book Club with Hannah C.

Our Emotional Intelligence consultant, Hannah (see Episode 25: My Life is the Mmmbop Song) launched a Social Justice Book Club at the Golden Valley Public Library in Minneapolis. We talk how Hannah selects books for her book club and get insights on her motivation for starting it.

Moral to the Story: Change can effect not just family, but those around you.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

Future Books for the Club:

Past Book Club Selections:

Get the Upcoming Book Club List:

  • Email Hannah: hcarney@umn.edu

 

 

Episode 31: I See London, I See France…Alone

Tiffany from (A)broad in Education and super special guest Thuan (check out his foodie Instagram @travel2f00d) join us to discuss being American while traveling solo.

Moral to the Story: Travel makes you different.

Other Fun Topics Discuss:

  • Tamu is traveling to Europe.
  • Tiffany has two volumes of photos from her trips.
  • Tamu’s flight anxiety.
  • Group consensus: there is plenty to do to keep you distracted on flights.
  • Geography.
  • Tiffany’s Collage: Smoking in Amsterdam
  • Food tastes better in their origin countries.
  • Thuan Recommends: Churchill War Museum
  • Feeling Triggered: Tamu passes on the Heineken Museum because Wight 1 used to drink it. Tiffany suggests going to exorcise the legacy of Wight 1.
  • Tamu is taking a wig to change her persona in Amsterdam.
  • Hair changes your personality.
  • Tiffany suggests wearing a wig throughout the trip.
  • Le Paris Noir Tour.

      Travel & Race & Safety:

  • Don’t read the comments when you Google about being black and travelling.
  • Being American carries more weight than blackness.
  • Travel in Paris.
  • Tales from the Camino de Santiago.
  • Being American can also make you feel like an outsider aside from race/ethnicity.
  • Passports: Concept of US passport as reparations.
  • Head Scratcher Question: Are all Americans colonizers?
  • Americans have a privilege abroad just by being American.
  • Is it radical to travel?

Episode 30: Shit Happens During the Day, Literally

Once again, it started as an innocent Get To Know Us question and turned into a full-blown episode. We are joined by Tiffany from (A)broad in Education and super special guest Thuan (check out his foodie Instagram @travel2f00d) for a robust discussion about the ridiculous expense of bras, underwear cleanliness/rotation, and going commando.

Moral to the Story: Buy new underwear every six months, don’t be like us and have them for years.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • The most money spent on a bra.
  • Victoria’s Secret was a bra/panty training ground for most of us.
  • Tiffany was wearing the wrong sized bra because they were her mom’s.
  • Tiffany also didn’t want boobs.
  • Training bras.
  • Tamu is going to London to see Jim.
  • The consensus is that she will get laid.
  • Local Business Shout-out: Allure Intimate Apparel.
  • Nips are not a thing Tamu wants.
  • Poor Thuan is mortified.
  • No one will let Tamu finish her story.
  • Third Love bras are hella expensive.
  • Dudes just have to buy a 4-pack of Jockey underwear and are good to go.
  • Tamu realizes her boobs are sagging because she is old and not because of mammograms.
  • Thuan suggests going commando.
  • A study from Tommy John shows Americans wear the same underwear multiple times in a row.
  • Bad@Love PSA: Wash your clothes.
  • Bad@Love PSA that we shouldn’t need to remind you about: WASH YOUR PAN AFTER YOUR COOK/SEASON CHICKEN!!
  • Mallory wore someone else’s panties as a teen.
  • Bad@Love Pro-Tip: Wear underwear inside out when borrowing.
  • Bad@Love Saves the Planet: Go commando to save the landfills.
  • H&M textile bins.
  • Mallory’s sports bra is at the end of the world.
  • Correction: We meant Abercrombie & Fitch, not American Apparel.
  • Mindblown: What if we are meant to be funky?
  • Do hipsters wash their legs?
  • Americans have a different immune system.

Asia According to Thuan:

  • In Asia, you have different types of ice.
  • Drink the ice that has holes in it. Don’t drink the ice that is chipped off from a block.
  • Ask for ice on the side.
  • Drink bottled or canned.

Flutter: Maintaining Relationships During Travels

Tamu is off to Europe for two whole months! Tiffany from (A)broad in Education joins Mallory as they talk about the difficulties of maintaining relationships while traveling, after traveling, and how a lot of it can be in your head when you simply realize that life happens.

Moral to the Story: Keeping in touch can be difficult. But when you stay connected, life flourishes.

Flutter: Try the Bacon – Advice to Tamu in Europe

Tamu is off to Europe for two whole months! Tiffany from (A)broad in Education and super special guest Thuan (check out his foodie Instagram @travel2f00d) join Mallory in giving her advice for her travels.

Moral to the Story: Say yes and don’t be afraid to go off your plan.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

Episode 29: How to Date Men When You Hate Men: The Book of Contradictions

We read Blythe Roberson’s How to Date Men When You Hate Men basically because Mallory hates dudes and we want to get to the bottom of it.

Moral to the Story: Times are a changin’! You can write your own story when it comes to relationships.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Get to Know Us: Relationship flashbacks. What do you do when you are triggered into a relationship memory?
  • Wish them well even if they are assholes.
  • #WePodcastLikeThis
  • Hair Colorist Shout Out –  to Shelly Rae of Paper Hair Salon.
  • Everyone wanted Mallory to read this book.
  • Mallory can’t get past the hate because of her trust issues.
  • Blythe might need Talkspace.
  • You can chart your own path when it comes to love.
  • Is the fairy tale real? Maybe, but it will end because love is a false construct.
  • Pop culture dictates the rules.
  • What does dating mean?
  • The group hang.
  • Is it so wrong to have phone conversations in 2019?
  • Hold fast to your deal breakers.
  • Have multiple crushes.
  • The 2 question rule.

Episode 28: Be Honest With What You Want to Get What You Desire & Deserve

This week we talk with our friend and author of Reclaiming Choice: Awakening Peace and Power from Within, Gretchen about not compromising on your deal-breakers in relationships. BTW, she is also the lovely woman who let us record season one at her house.

Moral to the Story: You don’t have to jump into dating immediately after a breakup.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Get to Know Us: What should the legal smoking age be? 18 or 21?
  • Our consensus was 19.
  • Tamu is going to try a hash brownie when she goes to Amsterdam.
  • #WePodcastLikeThis
  • We create our own relationships. Get clear on your deal-breakers.
  • Communicating with the Opposite Sex, by Alison Armstrong.
  • Follow your gut.
  • Don’t compromise on your happiness.
  • It is more sensible to look for what you desire and deserve, rather than waste someone’s time.
  • It is not easy to sit within yourself.
  • Take time to process the end of relationships or else you’ll bring that baggage into your next one.
  • At the end of the day, be honest with what you want.

 

Book Recommendation:

Check out Gretchen’s book, Reclaiming Choice: Awakening Peace and Power from Within:

Is the world going mad? Have you wondered if the violence and suffering will ever end? With gentle words, Gretchen speaks through the fog of pain and confusion to a culture that has lost its center. Conveyed in a personal narrative that is at once familiar and profound, she guides the reader through the layers of separation obscuring access to peace and wholeness. The journey is as healing as it is empowering; awakening the reader to the importance of reclaiming their right of conscious choice. In the process, Gretchen builds a bridge between where we are now and where we can go as individuals, communities and as a human race. It is a refreshing perspective, worthy of consideration, discussion and application.