Episode 18: Swiper, No Swiping!

This week we pick up where episode 17 left off and dive into the current dating culture by watching the HBO documentary, “Swiped: Hooking up in the Digital Age.” Let‘s just say, dating is hard out in these streets.

Moral to the Story: Don’t hate the player, change the game.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • The drunken adventures of Mallory and Tamu.
  • Epic side bar: Mallory learns the book she read as a child called, “Little Black Sambo” is indeed racist.
  • Dicktures and Pusstures are for YOUR EYES ONLY, no sharing.
  • New word alert: Tinderoni – dude whores
  • Just because a dick is flaccid, it doesn’t mean it is not riddle with disease. Protect yourself from STDs and STIs.
  • Kids need to be educated in schools about sex.
  • Porn is not reality.
  • Change the culture by teaching men not to rape.
  • No one knows how to talk to one another these days, in the 90s talking on the phone wasn’t considered sociopathy.
  • Be OK with your everyday.
  • Check tagged photos to know what is really going on in a person’s life or what they are hiding.

 

Podcast Shout Outs:

Flutter: What We’ve Learned About Love

It has been a year since the ladies of Bad at Love Podcast started their quest to bust down the myth of the fairytale and perhaps become better people in the process. So, where are they now?

Moral to the Story: We deserve respect and to have people in our lives who make us better.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Mallory is less angry than she was a year ago and has learned she can walk away from an ignorant comment or stupid conversation.
  • Tamu is working on being fine with being alone. Crime shows and documentaries makes her feel more OK about being single cause “bitches be crazy”.
  • Mallory is content with her situation and doesn’t feel the need to go online dating.
  • Tamu feels dating is a lot of work.
  • The Oxygen show “Snapped” should be re-titled, “Snapped: Love Can Go So Awry.”
  • Both ladies feel like finding a special someone with useful skill sets in home and auto repair would be amazing.
  • Next steps: slather on some copulance and head to Home Depot for a handy man or O’Reilly’s Auto Parts for a mechanic.

Flutter: I’ll Be There for You, ‘Cause You’re There for Me Too

New season. New Flutters. This week, we are shouting out our expanding podcast community! Please show these amazing podcasts love by liking, rating, reviewing and sharing them.

Moral to the Story: We would be nowhere without the support of our podcast family!

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • These lovely Twitter groups have restored Mallory’s faith in social media…at least in Twitter.

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Episode 17: The Science of Sex Appeal: How Cis White People Choose Each Other

This week we watched Discovery Channel’s 2009, “The Science of Sex Appeal” documentary and learned all sorts of sexy science things. Genetics and hormones are a bitch, y’all.

Moral to the Story: Science experiments lack diversity and inclusion.

Other Fun Topics Discussed: 

  • It all starts with the face.
  • Golden Ratio is the equation of perfection
  • We all start out symmetrical in the womb, but factors like not eating enough kale or coughing can cause asymmetry.
  • Curves = health and fertility but for some stupid reason humans judge extremes as most attractive.
  • In nature, males are the fancy ones. Human males use objects like cars and grillz to attract women.
  • Men like physical attractiveness. Ladies prefer status.
  • Kissing is important. Men’s saliva contains testosterone.
  • Copulance makes men go stupid. Ladies secrete this mind numbing hormone. It also smells like “butter gone off.”
  • Science is racist. Check out Sasheer Zamata’s look at Afrofuturism on Full Frontal with Samantha Bee.
  • Mallory equates humans to dolphins and regales us with an amazing Drunk History segment about a scientific study that drugged dolphins with LSD and jerked them off to teach them to speak English.
  • We want to know what sex appeal looks like in the age of Tinder.

 

Podcast Shout Outs:

Check out A Non Mom Happy Hour and Best Forevers Podcast.

Season 2 – Ep. 1: “It’s been an honor and a privilege”

We are back for Season 2! And, it is our 1 year Podiversary! Thank you to all of you for listening and supporting us. We are so excited to start this new year with more romance-related shenanigans!

To kick it off, we decided to watch a movie that is beloved by many–just not us, James Cameron’s 1997 epic, “Titanic“. Take your Dramamine and get your floaties on and enjoy this amazing discussion of this watery love story. Did we mention, we only watched the last half of the movie?

Moral to the Story: White, heterosexual love survives.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Catching up on life after three months on break. Basically, winter sucks, work sucks.
  • Mallory was 10 years-old when she first saw Titanic and Kate Winslet was the first movie nudity she ever saw.
  • We both really hate this movie.
  • Mallory wanted to make sure we watched exactly half of this movie. We started at 1:36:01
  • Jack and Rose’s love caused the Titanic to hit the iceberg.
  • The reason for lack of diversity on the Titanic was slavery.
  • Mallory agrees with Roxane Gay: “It’s fucking bullshit that Jack dies. There is plenty of room on that door. I am going to bed.”
  • Mallory thought it would be a better use of time to build your own raft out of doors instead of running around.
  • Tamu’s Lesson Learned: Drink & be on the top deck.
  • Knowledge Check: learn about the systems that have led to financial inequality, and the current concentration of wealth and power. Watch or read Requiem for the American Dream
  • Every Rose and Jack scenario would end in Jack being dead EXCEPT for the one with the door.
  • How many life jackets did Rose get then leave?
  • Our favorite part of the movie is the quartet playing “Nearer my God to Thee.”
  • Love creates catastrophe.
  • They both really could have shared that door.
  • Jack’s thoughts as he freezes to death, “Me winning that ticket was the best thing that ever happened to me…not…glug…glug…glug.”
  • Remember “The Phantom“?
  • Class distinction hasn’t changed.
  • Bad at Love Theory: Jack would have lived if not for trying to save Rose.

Podcast Shout Outs:

Flutter: So Love Really isn’t a Fairytale?

What a fitting end to this, sparkling first season of Bad at Love Podcast. Mallory and Tamu discuss an interview Keira Knightley had with Ellen where she talked about banning her three-year-old daughter from watching Disney movies like The Little Mermaid.

Moral to the Story: No matter how problematic the subject, it can be viewed and discussed in order to better understand it rather than banning it. 

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Mallory thinks it is inevitable that kids will end up watching banned Disney movies, etc.
  • Check out the book, Cinderella Ate My Daughter.
  • Even if situations in pop culture are problematic, they can be explained. Tell kids the truth, make it a discussion.
  • The happily ever after fairytale myth is ingrained in us; starts with Disney and ends with Hallmark/Lifetime.

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Episode 15: Laura Linney, Oh How Could You Do That?!

There have been heated discussions between Tamu & Mallory about the holiday movie, Love Actually and whether it is actually problematic. Luckily when Jim and Ben were in town, they graciously agreed throw their hats into the ring regarding this “controversial” holiday film.

Moral to the Story: Love actually can spur debate.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Laura Linney made the biggest mistake of her life!
  • Ben LOVES Rodrigo Santoro.
  • At Christmas anything is possible.
  • Laura Linney is a national treasure.
  • Debate Question 1: Do you think Rodrigo was in love with Laura?
  • Ben reasons that we don’t see Rodrigo’s side of the story so it is difficult to know his feelings.
  • Tamu would feel guilty about not answering her brother’s phone call, but would have chose an orgasm.
  • Sometimes love is about forgiveness.
  • Debate Question 2: Did Emma Thompson forgive Professor Snape?
  • Question NOT up for Debate:  No one likes that necklace.
  • Love Actually is about love in all its forms.
  • Keira Knightley’s stalker.
  • Jim became a convert to Love Actually late in life.
  • Mallory felt that Hugh Grant’s love story was problematic because of the “big lady” (OR NOT AT ALL BIG) trope.
  • The difference between K-dramas and Rom-coms.
  • Mallory has a higher expectation of rom-coms.
  • Colin Firth is a world treasure.
  • Both characters tried to learn their paramour’s respective language.
  • Jim is also learning Portuguese.
  • Mallory found Liam Neeson’s story line to be problematic.
  • The bromance was not problematic per Mallory.
  • Ben just learned that Claudia Schiffer was actually in this movie.
  • Ben Recommends: Watching the cut scenes and director’s commentary.
  • Bad@Love wishes everyone a lovely holiday season filled with love, laughter and friendship.

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Flutter: Fatal Attraction, the original ending

For Halloween, Mallory & Tamu watched Fatal Attraction and talked about the controversy surrounding film’s ending. Unfortunately, they neglected to Google the original film ending at the time. So today, they watched the original end of the movie and it was startlingly different.

Moral to the Story: No roll in the hay is worth hurting yourself.

Watch the original ending of Fatal Attraction.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Glenn Close meets a fatal end regardless of the ending.
  • Anne Archer should not ever run after Dan.
  • If the ending of the movie was the original edit, perhaps future movie tropes of “crazy women” and the pop culture surrounding it would be different.
  • The original edit really makes you think about mental illness.
  • Now that the times have changed, the movie should be reedited to the original version.
  • Bad at Love’s Alternate Ending: Glenn Close and Anne Archer kill Dan, take his insurance money and flee to Mexico where Glenn has her baby and everyone is happy. Sort of like Big Little Lies.

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Episode 14: Nappily Ever After: A Little Bit Disappointing…A Lot

Tamu and Mallory read Trisha R. Thomas’s Nappily Ever After and compare it to the Netflix  adaptation. Let’s just say there were high expectations which were sadly not met. However, both the book and movie are pioneers for moving natural hair into the mainstream; hopefully the next movies and books about natural hair will be even better.

Moral to the Story: We are beautiful regardless of what comes out of our heads.

Other Fun Topics Discussed: 

  • The protagonist is really a selfish human.
  • She cut her hair off and had no new growth as a person.
  • Mallory liked the first chapter of the book.
  • Communication is important in relationships.
  • Don’t get blasted and share feelings because you may end up engaged.
  • Book break up vs. Insecure breakup between Issa & Lawrence.
  • Mallory wondered if the movie was for white people to get an idea of black women & their hair.
  • The movie’s theme is “if a black man approves”
  • Most Ridiculous Movie Quote: “Men want realness”
  • Anything with a dick can still be a dick.
  • Women & beauty standards.
  • Sex in the shower can be a thing on wash day.
  • Miraculously Sanaa’s character can braid, but was unable to do her own hair.
  • Don’t assume because someone is wearing a scarf that they have cancer.
  • Mallory found the sexism in the movie!
  • Tamu talks about the moment when she cut her hair off.
  • Mallory finds the misogyny in the final pool scene between the father and mother!
  • Bad@Love Remakes this Movie: Would have been better to see someone with more power in their hands.
  • Myth Busted: Going natural is not cheap, nor is it quick.
  • The World According to Mallory: Online dating = Love resumes so use grammar and spell check.
  • Tamu compares the movie to bad tequila.

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Flutter: Irresistible Mistakes…!

This week, Tamu and Mallory make unsurprising romantic choices when they play Irresistible Mistakes an online dating simulation game from Voltage, Inc. An otome game, this story-based game is targeted towards women.

Moral to the Story: Read a book, watch a movie, or play The Sims 4 instead.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

The main character wakes up from a night of dirty, sexy times and DOES NOT SHOWER!

The use of …! for everything the main character is thinking.

Not shockingly Tamu ended up with someone who has closed himself off to love.

Unsurprisingly Mallory ended up with someone whose heart is unavailable.

Mallory Recommends: There is a pigeon simulation game called Hatoful Boyfriend that is her FAVORITE.  She says to keep playing, it isn’t how you think.

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