Episode 37: Floundering

The ladies admit they are not okay and just getting by these days. They continue their conversation about how they have been impacted by the exposure of America’s dirty not-so-secret history of white supremacy and systemic racism. Also Mallory got asked on a date in these Covid times!

Moral to the Story: BLACK TRANS LIVES MATTER!

Bonus Moral to the Story: ARREST THE COPS WHO KILLED BREONNA TAYLOR!

 

One Fun Thing:

Back when we were just trying to survive Covid isolation, Tamu and Mallory were invited to record a quarantine YouTube episode with The Meme-ing of it All podcast. It was a lot of fun. The ladies introduced the Meme-ing crew to all sorts of interesting dildos from Bad Dragon. Check it out if you need a 25 minute break from the heaviness of the world.

Don’t Forget: DONATE, DONATE, DONATE!

  • Reclaim the Block has a Google doc listing Minneapolis/St.Paul organizations you can donate to.
  • The Strategist has a comprehensive list of organizations that you can support based on your interests.
  • Donate locally to ensure funds get where they are most needed.

Episode 36: The Long & Bitter but Beautiful Struggle

Tamu and Mallory have a conversation about the devastating and change-making events that have rocked their Twin Cities of Minneapolis & St. Paul, the nation, and the world in the past three weeks.

Moral to the Story: BLACK LIVES MATTER!

DONATE, DONATE, DONATE!

  • Reclaim the Block has a Google doc listing Minneapolis/St.Paul organizations you can donate to.
  • The Strategist has a comprehensive list of organizations that you can support based on your interests.
  • Donate locally to ensure funds get where they are most needed.

Be an ALLY:

  • Check out Justice in June. It offers three learning plans for anyone hoping to spend the month taking a step to “becoming an active ally to the black community.” Choose how much time you have per day — 10, 25 or 45 minutes — and the learning plan tells you what media to consume.
  • Watch Ibram X. Kendi discuss How to Be an Antiracist.
  • Watch Dr. Robin DiAngelo discuss White Fragility.
  • Watch Franchesca Ramsey’s 5 Tips for Being an Ally.

 

Episode 35: Advice from a “World” Traveler

In our final episode of the season, we recap Tamu’s European trip which was chocked full of cobblestone, hills and steps!

Moral to the Story: We only go around this Earth once. Treat yo’self. Don’t cheap out on your vacations.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Get to Know Us: Justin Timberlake’s recent “poor lack of judgement” sparked this week’s question – Would you let your man hold another woman’s hand?
  • The consensus was, “I guess”.
  • Tamu got Prik in Amsterdam.
  • Sometimes being a tourist can be fun.
  • Tamu’s Tourist Suggestions:
    • LondonLondon Eye with drinks package; if you are lucky, you will see a proposal!
    • EdinburghScotch Whisky Experience; ride in a whisky barrel and learn from a ghost how whisky is made and then drink some!
    • Paris: L’Atelier des Lumieres; immerse yourself in the art of Vincent Van Gogh (until Jan 5, 2020).
  • No one gives you the topical terrain information about cities when you are reading a travel blog.
  • Tamu’s Travel Pro Tip: Scotland has inclines and steps. So does London.
  • Racism Abroad: In Amsterdam, people dress in full blackface as a Santa’s helper friend, Black Pete.
  • Shout out to Tiffany from Abroad in Education: Wigs did make a difference.
  • Shout out to my new Scottish friends Liam and James!
  • Tamu’s Foodie Suggestions:
  • That time we left a bar in Paris without paying.
  • Tamu’s Travel Pro Tip: Wear comfortable shoes and clothes.
  • Our bizarre Outlander discussion.
  • The benefits of living minimally.
  • In praise of WhatsApp: keeps family close and friendships fresh.
  • #WePodcastLikeThis: Hannah’s (Check out Ep. 32 to learn more about Hannah and her Social Justice Book Club) talented kids made the earrings we are wearing for a fundraiser.

Thank you: To all of our old and new listener friends, we are so very grateful for your support. We wish you all a very safe and happy holiday season! See you next year for Season 3!

 

Flutter: Making it Through the Wilderness

Join Tamu and Mallory as they recount their very first times.

Moral to the Story: Have that sex test results convo before diving into the festivities.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Tamu and Mallory were both late bloomers.
  • We are conditioned via pop culture to believe you should be between ages 15 – 18 when you loose your virginity.
  • Old men are gross and disgusting.
  • Mallory planned her first time and went for it with gusto and actually enjoyed herself.
  • Tamu’s planned first time was with Phil and was supposed to be in Atlantic City.
  • Tamu’s REAL first time was still with Phil on Mother’s Day on the floor of his parents’ house.
  • B@L Concept: The Reluctant Virgin
  • There is a lot of planning and prep involved in anal sex.

 

Episode 34: 36 Questions to Idris Elba

This week Tamu & Mallory discuss 36 Questions to Love and how their answering these questions over wine in 2015 laid the foundation for their friendship.

Moral to the Story: You can use these questions to develop a foundation regardless of relationship.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Get to Know Us: Have you used scents to try an attract people?
  • Perfumes are bad for you.
  • Tamu loved original Dolce & Gabanna
  • Scent trails – that time on the jetway when someone farted.
  • Chemical smells gives Mallory a migraine.
  • #WePodcastLikeThis
  • The Key to 36 Questions: Be open-minded.
  • 4 minutes of looking into someone’s eyes in silence it too much for Tamu.
  • For our true crime friends: you may be able to detect sociopathy and psychopathy with these questions.
  • These questions can be a good way to gauge someone’s open-mindedness.
  • There is a potential for us to to make compromises even with these questions because we see what we want to see.
  • Tamu wonders if these questions would have worked with Wights 1 and 2 and determines, probably not.
  • Follow your intuition. It is OK to be alone.
  • Make good climatic choices.
  • Try these 36 questions on a speed date.
  • Idris Elba

Flutter: Breakup Escape

New York Magazine’s, The Cut article, “8 TV Shows to Watch After a Breakup” sparked a lovely conversation about TV shows watched by Tamu and Mallory during the dark times of relationships end.

Moral to the Story: Breakup shows are good for a time, but, when you end up hating them, it means you have moved on.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

 

 

Episode 33: Braving the Wilderness

As a part of Tamu’s personal growth journey, she chose to read Brene Brown’s, Braving the Wilderness then thought it would be good idea to read for the podcast at some point. The timing was astounding, as it was read during a week of mass shootings at the end of July into August and the book served as basis to try and understand why these tragedies continue to occur and how we can work in our own small ways to make change.

Moral to the Story: Listen to try to understand in the same way we want to be understood.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Get to Know Us: Being in a relationship with a person of color. Awareness of the whites to issues of others. Respect when your partner draws attention to situations.
  • Mallory hates slap bracelets.
  • Drink of the Day: Tinto de Verano
  • What is the wilderness? Standing in your truth and not wavering from it.
  • It is important to set up boundaries for yourself.
  • We are living in a giant feedback loop.
  • Loneliness stems from fear & anger.
  • We are where we are today out of fear.
  • Global and Domestic Terrorism: A Discussion
  • Dehumanization
  • Mallory is losing her empathy for gunmen.
  • We are all able to recognize and stop it.
  • Conflict transformation: Help me understand.
  • Mallory is always on a rampage for justice, to hell with small victories.
  • Tamu is working on being joy-filled but she is busy foreboding joy.
  • Be courageous and vulnerable.
  • Express your joy, it will make others happy.

Flutter: Kittenfishing

Tamu and Mallory discussed the lesser known, but all to commonplace concept of kittenfishing thanks to the Huffington Post article, “If You’re Dating, You’ve Almost Undoubtedly Been Kittenfished.”

Moral to the Story: You don’t have to lie about who you are–we will find out.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

  • Kittenfishing was created by Hinge. It means, someone who presents themselves unrealistically using Photoshop, older, albeit younger pictures, etc.
  • Calling it “kittenfishing” makes it sound less insidious.
  • Mallory finds herself entertaining.

Episode 32: Justice Flowers with a Side of Ranch

Hannah joins us to talk about her Social Justice Book Club.

Moral to the Story: It is important to keep lines of communication open to strengthen relationships.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

Local Business Shout-Out: Sociable Cider Werks.

Get to Know Us: Weird Food Combos – Hannah loves ranch on everything! Mallory eats Fritos with cottage cheese. Tamu eats most things out of a bowl with a spoon.

#WePodcastLikeThis – baby shark edition

How do you maintain relationships when you have divergent opinions on politics & justice?

One method: Meet for coffee to talk about politics/social identity.

Have ground rules.

Look for connections and points to open up.

Flutter: Social Justice Book Club with Hannah C.

Our Emotional Intelligence consultant, Hannah (see Episode 25: My Life is the Mmmbop Song) launched a Social Justice Book Club at the Golden Valley Public Library in Minneapolis. We talk how Hannah selects books for her book club and get insights on her motivation for starting it.

Moral to the Story: Change can effect not just family, but those around you.

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

Future Books for the Club:

Past Book Club Selections:

Get the Upcoming Book Club List:

  • Email Hannah: hcarney@umn.edu